Sadly, this is a life situation that your sister will have to deal with on her own.

Just try and be there for her, be supportive, but do not trash the new BF...it may back fire on you

Good luck

From the history you have given us, I wouldn't put down the bf. She will only rebel and dig in deeper. He does sound like a douchebag. But if you point this out to her she will most likely do what she has been doing and just keep the douchebag bf. However, if you just let things go, eventually, hopefully, she will see what a douchebag he is and kick him to the curb. I would, however, keep an eye on her son. He should not be put in a dangerous situation.

I concur with Dd and Andrea. There is NOTHING you can do to change the situation. Don't trash her or her boyfriend, lest she dig her heels in even more. Handle her with care and give her support and let her know you are there for her. See where that leads. What is her deal about not taking meds?

Thanks all. I have told her time and time again that I simply don't know her bf. I don't have an opinion of him one way or another. But the last time I really spoke to her I expressed that I didn't think it was a good idea for them to move in together so quickly. I also told her that I had no intention of meeting him (considering the only things she has to say about him are complaints). I'm not about to be nasty and put him down....when I told my sister that I would not be meeting him, she simply said "but you will"....I told her that I had just told her that I am not going to and again, she said "but you will".

She's taken things to a new level....one where she expects everyone to do anything she wants them to, and she doesn't care what anyone else opinion is about it. I don't know why she stopped her meds. Big mistake, in my eyes. She seems proud that she's unmedicated....even if she is making some of the biggest mistakes of her life b/c of it.

I'll do my best to just keep my distance, b/c she doesn't agree with anything I say, and she doesn't respect anything I have to say anyway. My main concern is my nephew.

Listening gets me further than opining. It is all too easy for opinions to invalidate and weaken the person I want to help. If I keep my mouth shut and my ears open, they are freer to work out their own conflicts and have faith in their own strengths.

Try saying, "I believe in you."

He is an absolute douchebag. Tough situations like this one rarely ever end the way we'd like. Regardless of what you do or say to your sister she sounds like, at this moment in time, she will do what she wants. It is definitely quite wise to look out for your innocent nephew in order to protect both his physical and emotional health. Best wishes and may there be peace for you all... except the douchebag of course... frak him and the email he rode in on.

Sorry hun you seem to be in a tough situation. You can only try and talk to her and get her to see that what she is doing is a mistake. Is she also still sick? If she is a danger to herself she should really be in hospital.

Wow he does sound like a jerk, but you can't live your life for your sister. Tell her how you feel and then let it go.