When it rains it pours?

Steadying support while you figure out what comes next.

I don't know if there will be any or where it will come from right now. I have my late husband's extended family around, but my fiance has distanced us a bit from them. So when he is gone, I imagine I will be closer to them again. But I will still be lonely without my fiance. He brought me love again. I don't know yet if his adult children will want to have a close relationship with me. His son probably not because he has been slow to accept his dad having a relationship after his mom passed 6 years ago. If it was not for the son, I would have moved in with my fiance 3 years ago.

I am scared again.

None of us gets to know the future.

Small steps, big faith and lots of prayer.

I lost my second husband 11 years ago to a farming accident. So, I know how scared you are. I’ve been alone before this happened, after divorcing my first husband. It is hard but can be done. You have extended family to reacquaint with, you can make new friends, get out and about, go places and do new things. Heck, you might even meet someone else at some point. It’s all within our own control how we deal with it. Yes, it will be scary for a while, but with time and patience we can adjust as needed. Don’t sell yourself short. Give yourself permission to be scared but make a plan to combat the loneliness you will surely feel. There are lots of us lonely people out there who would like to be friends with others going thru the same thing. It doesn’t have to be just family. God bless you and supporting prayers for the both of you.

I am doing a lot of praying. I stopped in church today, and I posted prayer requests and intentions on six church websites. I watch Mass on tv every morning (have been for 10 years). Thank you for your prayers, we need them.

Find some support groups to help you through. There are many virtual groups out there. Take advantage of them...some are for those who lost a loved one to COVID.

Try to find a cancer support group for the loved ones who are facing this crisis with their health. Grief support groups are great too. I'm so sorry you are going through so much grief losing your sister and now facing the hardships with your fiance. That's a lot to process and endure. Take each moment to express your love and realize that the people in your life need you as much as you need them. Take your cares, concerns and gripes to God, He already knows what you need and isn't surprised when we are upset over the loss of our loved ones. He grieves too. I don't believe that death and dying were ever a part of His original plan. Sin had a way of bringing that to our doorstep and now we deal with the fallout of living in a sinful world. I pray you will find a good support system and one that will help to build you up when you don't feel like you can take another step. Do it. Take that step and keep on keeping on, for yourself, for your family, for your future. You are worth all the efforts.

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I lost my dad and my sister (my only sibling) 18 months a part. My mom was diagnosed with lung cancer in June of 2012, my husband was diagnosed with lung cancer in August 2012. He passed 7 weeks later. My mom passed in 2014. So its just me left of the immediate family. The Lord blessed me with 6 children, but still when I lost my mom I had this empty, odd feeling and I was telling someone about it at my moms funeral and my uncle was standing there listening. A few days later he called me to thank me. He said I had that feeling also and I didn't know why. Him and my mom were the only ones left of his family. Loss is horrible and I hope you do have a lot of support. You can always come to this site . I think people here really care. Take care..