I have not lost a spouse but I did want to tell you that I am very sorry for your loss. Your husband sounds like a very special man and you had a good life together.

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In 2004 my husband had a heart attack at work and I was told he couldn't survive but he did and we had 3 more very good years together before his motorcycle accident took him away! It is very hard to go on but as time passes there will be better days where the good memories start to come and life becomes at least tolerable again. I know it sure doesn't seem that way right now. I am so sorry for your loss!!!!

I am very sorry for the pain you are enduring right now. I lost my husband Jan. 5 of this year to a motorcycyle accident. I'm sure I am still partially in shock. We were married 25 yrs. & have 3 kids ranging in ages 5-24. It's surreal for your husband to be alive & vibrant one minute & gone the next. Bob died instantly, & his shell of a body was all I had left to say goodbye to. But I'm glad I did that because it let me know for sure he was gone. I'm here if you need me. Love, Amy

I'm sorry for your loss and I understand your pain. This site is full of people who have lost husbands and wives and we support each other in the down times and celebrate with each other as we try to move on.
I lost my husband in June 2007 fo lung cancer and in the beginning I couldn't even breathe. Now I'm not the person I was with him, but I am becoming the person I am without him. thats a big step and I'm here if you need a shoulder to lean on. Hugs, Sharon

I am sorry for your loss. I just want you to know that I loss my husband January 15, 2009 to a massive heart attack at work too. Your story and mine are just alike except I only had my Kevin for 9 years. Feel free to chat with me at anytime. I know your pain just try and trust in God he has a reason for everything.

I'm so sorry that you lost your husband too. Your story and my story are exactly the opposite but exactly the same too. I just lost my husband on April 3, 2009. We just had his service 5 days ago. He died of a horrible brain tumor and we watched him fight with everything he had in him to be here and watched his mind go before his body. It was SO painful with five and a half months of operations, and appointments, and scheduling people to be with him, and treatments that made him so weak that this strong man that was my rock and my hero,suffered horribly at the end. We didn't say goodbye either because he refused to even think that he could not make it and by the time we knew there was no chance, his mind was gone with the tumor causing so much pressure inside his skull that it was unbearable to know was happening.

I had time to prepare in the last two weeks for the loss of my husband and I know that you were robbed of that. I live with the horror of how my husband went along with the horrible sadness of losing him.

Neither loss is fair! I miss my husband SO much that I ache for him! I put one foot in front of the other and keep moving, but I feel like a zombie.

I so get what you are saying and feel so sad for you too. I am so sorry for your loss and so sorry that you did not get a chance to even have a moment with him before he was gone.

It is all hard.

Thanks to all of you for your kind words. They are more comforting than you will ever know.

I lost my husband on March 1, 2010. He was a perfectly healthy person. He just went to sleep as usual that day and never woke up. Our 10 year old son still cannot even think of a life without his father who was his best friend. He was such fun-loving, compassionate person and a great cook. Our lives have been turned upside down in just a couple of hours. We did not even have any time to be prepared for this. Nothing is going to be the same again. It is a new life, new routine which we are forced to follow.

We were married for 15 years and we too had so many plans for the future. My main challenge is to make my son cope with the loss of his father.

I am trying to take one day at a time and still it is a struggle. One year has passed for you and I have only started the new journey. As my husband vanished like a flash we are still not able to come to terms with the fact that we are never going to see him again. How do I cope?

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your husband. My Dad passed away November 29, 2010 of a massive heart attack / cardiac arrest and my world, brothers world and especially mom's world have been turned completely upside down. It's never easy to lose someone but to go from talking with them one day to seeing them in the hospital the next hooked up to a bunch of machines and so close to death, it's almost intolerable. I can say that I know exactly what your going through in terms of losing someone who meant the world to you and losing them so suddenly. Each day is a struggle and I feel like i'm just going through the motions but I know that oneday I will see my Dad again and all my pain will be gone. I will pray for you and pray that God brings you peace during this most difficult time.