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"Lost my partner from aggressive cancer at the same age as me, 36yo, 2&half months ago, it was so sudden and traumatic to say the least. I go to work that really helps me I think, but when I get back home I don't have the energy for anything. I tried to go again to the gym but I feel I'll collapse. I've lost around 10kilos in these months due to no appetite somedays all I eat is a french toast and a banana or smth, I take multivitamins every morning, the thing is that I've lost interest in many things, I just want to stay home with relaxing music and candle light. My psychiatrist told me that I should push my self to do things but my mind won't help... I feel like everything is pointless in a way... Is this normal or should I put more effort to do things in order to occupy my mind? Some times I go out for a coffee or a drink with some friends but usually I prefer solitude. Is this normal part of the grief? thank you so much for any answers, my blessings from Greece.
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Hey All...I hope that you have a lovely, peaceful beginning of your weekI have a bunch of chores that need doing but may put them off til tomorrow and just hang out with my landlord/roomie todayWhat about you?...Anything special going on?Have a great day and take good care of you!!..Xo
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Once again I've had a fever today. I'm not going to the hospital because that's a huge waste of time but I did schedule a dr appointment for Wednesday afternoon.
If you can push yourself out the door a day or two a week even for a short time I think it will help you.... What would your partner want for you?... I think he'd want you to live and thrive but this is a time for baby steps... Maybe a drink or a lunch with a friend to start... If you can't be around several people maybe around one or two?...If you can't go out right now for an evening maybe for an hour or two.... Good for you getting up for work... There is a really good and active Widows and Widowers board on here... It's for all people who have lost a partner ... You might want to take a look at it sweetie... It may be a good support for you.... Big hug....xo
https://www.dailystrength.org/group/widows-widowers
and if i cant drag myself to go out a pick up a book- again it gets my mind thinking about something else
Pure bunk!
We all tend to deal with the same emotions, but we have different triggers for them, and we have different ways of dealing with those emotions.
There are some common things though. I've met a few people who insist that they do not need to grieve, or they do not need a service, or they can not have a service because their spouse did not want one. But when they finally let lose, they all have reported feeling better afterwards!
Please, feel free to vent and gripe and post and yell and scream here. As much as you need! Keeping it bottled up doesnot work. Guess that is the one size that does not fit anybody!
At some point we all find a new normal that works for us.
I have lost both parents and my only sibling. It is hard, and the sum total itself was like another loss. But I still have my wife. So our journeys are very different. But there is still a new normal for us out there. It just takes time (and effort) to find it.
I think your doctor is right, get out there. But you don't have to socialize. It can be long walks, it can be window shopping, it can be movies by yourself, it can be volunteer work, what ever you need. Something that is different.
I am so very sorry for your loss.
Gentle hugs
Please don't feel like you need to jump up and rejoin life right this second. You have been severely wounded and you need time to heal. It is way early days yet to feel like you need to be out in company again, if you don't feel like it. To a great degree you can trust your heart to tell you what to do in grief. Treat yourself with tender kindness and do the things you feel like doing.
When you have made it down the road a little and your heart is not so full of pain, then you can push yourself to go back to some of the things you used to enjoy. One day in the future you will have moments of joy and peace again.