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Dealing with the loss of loved ones

tiffanyfarrajd
tiffanyfarrajd

My father in law passed away suddenly on April 8th of this year. Then my dad passed away suddenly from a heart attack on September 17. Before this the last time I had faced a major death was 20 years ago when I was 9. Over the last few years I have lost a few dear friends.  It is different trying to deal with the death of a family member. I am having a hard time dealing with this. I had to deal with a lot of the funeral arrangements which I was not expecting. The hardest thing is accepting that he is gone. I am constantly sad and have a lot of anxiety since passing. My father and I weren't super close but our relationship had gotten better since the birth of my son. Just trying to get through all the feelings but right now it is really hard.

Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
I am so very sorry for your losses, the closer to the heart, the harder they hurt. That's just the way it is.

Most people talk about the stages of grief, but I like to think of them as the emotions of grief. Stages are something that we are supposed to deal with "once" and then move on. Emotions come and go. I know that I will revisit sadness many times; most of the time it will be due to a trigger that I've learned to anticipate. This might be things like family events (birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, etc) or it may come unanticipated when something pops up that I know mom or dad would have liked.

Talk therapy works well for many. Talk it out. Verbalize it. Sometimes we just have to talk so much about it that we get bored by talk of it!

There is a path from where you are to where you want to be. The trick I have found is that we need to be aware of both where we are, and where we want to be. Then we need a plan, and we need to follow it!

Again welcome!

Gentle hugs
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug for you Tiffany... I am so sorry that you've had so many losses.... I'm sure that your Dad must have been an awful shock.... Some things change our lives forever and it's hard to accept
I agree with Pepper that the 1st's are difficult as well that grief therapy can really help.... Another hug and a blessing....xo
lifeissocruel
lifeissocruel
I agree with Pepper - losing a loved one is like losing a major limb. First the pain is sudden and severe, then it goes numb for a while, then the pain comes back over and over again but a little less cutting each time. My grief for my dad will never go away - I had to hide away on his birthday and listen to some spiritual music and just sob. After a while, we can pretend to be happy in front of others, but the sadness is still there. I still wake up sometimes and wish it was all a dream and that he was still healthy sleeping in the other room, but then "reality" hits and the day is grey again. Sending a hug ...
koolman
koolman
I know, it's hard. And then we're faced with the difficulty of attaching to NEW loved ones, like your newborn son, for fear that they too will pass away. But that is exactly what we have to do, transpose all the love we felt for the deceased onto new people who come into our lives. You may find that your son begins exhibiting personality traits that are very similar to your father's! Which means you can re-form a relationship with your son that reminds you of your relationship with your father! I don't know about you, but I find this very comforting, that loves goes on, just takes on new forms. God provides!
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