Annie, you are not the fault of your sister's death. Period. We each have an appointed time to be born and a time to die. It's life's inevitability, we all will one day pass on into eternity. You were being the most loving sister you could be to consult her physician to make the best decision for her at the stage she had progressed to. Hospice is called in when a person is at the inevitable stage where caring for them with dignity to ease them into death, NOT getting them well and back to normal living. It's very hard to not think in terms of healthcare working to make someone healthy again.
I too had to face caring for my sister who suffered from stage 4 cancer, she had been fighting it for 7.5 years when her body showed signs of losing her struggle to survive. Hospice was called in and I was there as her, feeling very inadequate, "Hospice Nurse". I administered the meds that kept her comfortable until her final breath. Hospice personnel who would come into her home, would help me the family member understand she would never "get better", my job was to ease her as comfortably into the next step she would inevitably take, which was death. Did it make it any easier? No. Did I cause her death? No. I loved her til the bitter end. She had a time to be born and a time to die, that was set before the foundations of the world by God the Father. Please hear my cry for you to forgive yourself and know that you did the most loving thing you could do, which is be a wonderful sister and get her help exactly when she needed it. Some help in this life allows our loved ones to stick around a bit longer and some help comes in the form of helping them pass into their eternity. Both are loving. Rest assured she loved you, doesn't blame you and will always be in your heart as your loving sister.

If was not your fault at all. repeat after me: "I didn't do that to her, it's not my fault." You are feeling survivor's remorse and unnecessary guilt, but remember while it is right to feel sorrow, don't let it turn into guilt. Write a memoir of the good times to honor your sister. Also, do some charity or volunteer in her name, help others and it will help you too. <3 I am so sorry for your loss too! <3

Big hug for you Annie.... I am so very sorry for your loss... Yes I went through a lot of guilt when my folks passed

I was their caregiver and I had to make some really hard decisions as they became sicker..

I think survivors guilt is pretty common and it's part of grief sweetie.... Another huge hug

You did nothing wrong... She had good help... Hospice workers are wonderful ... It was her time to go..... xo

Thank you for your responses. I really appreciate that you all took the time to respond to my post. There were four of us and she was my oldest sister by 15 years. I was the "baby" and never let to forget that. I think that survivor's guilt comes close to what I am feeling. That's something I haven't thought about. Now I can move on. xoxoxo

Hey Annie, wishing you peace and hope your heart is filled with love and good memories instead of guilt that does not belong to you. It was an accident. She was ill. Please don’t blame yourself. She wouldn’t have either. Hold her memory and focus on the good ones you shared.
Sending you peace

Thank you WildRose for your caring response, I should have responded to you sooner. I've been in a really dark place. Once in awhile there is a glimmer of light and I try to make the most of it. Thanks to everyone here at Daily Strength I no longer feel I was responsible for her death. So that is good. There are many times I miss her and would like to talk with her. But don't most people?