Bereavement Support Group

Are you grieving the loss of a loved one? Whether you lost someone recently or it's been years, grief and its accompanying emotions can be complicated to cope with. Join our online support group to connect with a supportive group of people who really know how you feel. Help is right here.

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ammg 02/13/2016

There was a problem with my house and this guy came to fix it. He was 10 years younger than me but the chemistry was instant. It was a big job requiring months of work. We fought to keep away from one another as I was married but on the day he was due to finish we kissed and it was just like coming home. We kept our relationship secret for 9 months. In the interim I split with my husband from a loveless marriage of 20 years. 7 months after the separation we made our relationship public. It was amazing but from the start his family didn't approve and made his life very difficult. It didn't bother us as all we wanted was to be together - him, my son and I. He spent every free minute with us. He was so loving, kind and gentle - rubbing my face, playing with my hair, always taking care of me. It was a very intense relationship with constant calls, texts and emails all day long. Then he passed away last Sunday after only been ill for the previous weekend.

Now I'm heart broken and the future seems so bleak. Its very difficult to go on. If I hadn't my son I wouldn't.

Veronica77 02/13/2016

I am so sorry. I lost my partner Mike 02/11/14 of a sudden heart attack after 20 years. There is a widow/widower support group on DS that is very supportive:

http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Widows-Widowers/support-group

They are for partners, too. Take baby steps, one at a time. (((Big hug)))

ThePepperMan 02/13/2016

I am very sorry for your loss. How long were the 2 of your together?

Veronica is right, the WW group is a wonderful group of people.

Scott46 02/14/2016

OMG I am so sorry. I think the sudden deaths are the hardest. You don't have time to say goodbyes and mentally prepare. Since this was so recent you are still in shock and the pain is raw. There is no magic pill. Its just going to hurt like hell for a while. I tell everyone to learn as much about grieving as you can. There are some great books that walk you through what you can expect to face. There is usually a support group you can find depending on where you live and private counseling. If you attend church talk to your clergy. The important thing is don't bottle it and try to hide from the pain. It will wait for you. You're in hell and the only way out is through it.
One thing you might find helpful is to keep in mind what your guy would want for you in this tough time. Have that conversation in your mind. What would he say? I'm sure he would not want you to suffer (or not for long anyway). He would want you to be happy even though he cant be there with you anymore. I wish I had some magic words. But this is a long slow process we all go through.
God bless. Scott

bravarg75 02/18/2016

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. What a heartbreak to lose someone so unexpectedly like that. I am not in your shoes so I always struggle with what to say, but I have loved and lost, and I have had people I love die. What I try to focus on when I am deep in my struggles with, and against, life is my faith in a God that has a master plan that is confusing to me most of the time, but I know its there and that its built from His love for me and all of us.

Some other practical ideas may be to journal and get your emotions out, find a counselor you can trust, or join a bereavement support group. Take care of yourself, seek help if you are depressed! Prayers and peace your way.

beeyore99 02/23/2016

I am very sorry for your loss.

As Veronica said, take baby steps. The pain is still new, so it will take some time to adjust.

Hugs & Prayers

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