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............ and it feels like the hard work is beginning. I still can't believe he's gone, not just because he was my only love but because he was so vital, full of energy and optimism. He was a good, generous, bright and funny man whereas I am a depressed, slow, grumpy lump of a woman. I can't be bothered to do anything. My house is a mess, my son does all the coooking and shopping, I stay in bed as long as I can to avoid seeing anyone or doing anything, I only shower when I know someone's going to be close to me and I should be starting a new job on Monday. Without the job things will be tight financially as my son and grandson live with me, and my son is a lone parent so can't work (it's complicated). I don't WANT to go back to work. It's at the hospital that treated him, but I know he would be so proud. It's a perfect job for me, one I've wanted to do for years. What happens if I suddenly burst into tears? Will they have a uniform big enough for my fat arse (I'm a size 24 UK). I hate where I am right now; I want to stay at home and cry and rant and look at his photo and talk to him and tell him how much I miss him and can't imagine going on without him. He was just 51. What a shocking waste. I needed to get this off my (sizable) chest. I don't think there is an answer, I just have to keep on keeping on because this too will NOT pass; I have to learn to live with it. Love to all of you that are grieving xxx
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I did the dumbest thing today. I charged my earbuds, unplugged the block and put the block in my little bag instead of the earbuds. I wasn't happy about that when I got to the gym. What a dummy!
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Ever since I stopped doing therapy because of insurance, I've been feeling that old tense and irritable sense of anxiety and stress. I hate that. I was making so many strides and changes during therapy, my therapist would acknowledge all of my progress and accomplishments, and I miss that reassurance. Today I thought about it, and I made those changes! She would always tell me that I chose to...
I believe you are right that this will not pass. I am hoping that every ache of my heart will honor the son I lost two weeks ago at age 35. At least, that's my prayer and I'm sticking to it. Well. . . In between shaking my fist at God for being so cruel and trying to let the mystery be.
I once wrote a letter to someone I had lost and struggled with after his passing. I wrote down what upset me, my love, the good things, stuff I would miss, things I truly appreciated, etc.
I was a sobbing mess... But healing began to occur. Love lasts forever. The pain will be sore and raw for quite awhile, but you will begin to smile again. And it will be the most wonderful thing. For you. For your son and grandson. For the one you lost (he would WANT you to live a good life). It will be your gift to all of them.... when the time is right
You are in the middle of grieving. Tears will come when you least expect them (as random things will serve as reminders of who we lost). Those at work and home will understand that.
Grace will abound, and you will help his grandson and son see him in the precious, precious memories.
Best wishes.
The hard work is beginning because it is settling in. Losing a loved one is painful, especially someone like the man that you have described!
May I say that you must be something wonderful too for such a vital, full of energy and optimism, good, generous, bright, and funny man to have chosen to love and spend his life with!
Good for you for being courageous enough to go to work and to work where you will be in position to help someone else the way that your love was treated.
Grief is a process and for some that can lead to feeling less enthused but you are on the path to recovery. Give yourself grace, give yourself the grace that you would give your husband if you were to see him suffering such a loss.
Cry when you feel like you have to, remember him, and think of what he would say to you if he saw you suffering..then listen to his loving advice.
Keep on keeping on, not because this will not pass, but because the suffering will change to peace knowing that he would not want you to live life this way.
Sending you my prayers and a loving embrace!