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Janine78
Janine78

21 ... she'd be 21 soon, my Angel, my baby, my daughter.



she was born prematurely... so tiny, so frail. But so loved & so wanted by me.



my whole childhood I fantasised about having a daughter.



it wasn't meant to be



my dreams are not meant to be



i'm not supposed to be happy or have an ever after



i wonder so much about my beautiful girl, who she'd  be, what she'd think of me



she died in my arms on the longest & worst day of my life 12 hours plus of watching her go. With every little breath she struggled to take wanting her to slip away, to be free of the pain, get with every little breath wanting her to breathe on to stay, to live, to be my girl.



21 ... she's nearly 21 ... I miss her so, I love her so ... my heart broke when she died ... I've been lost ever since, broken, alone

Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Big hug for you Janine.... I am so very sorry for you loss.... I hope that you haven't been in a bad place for 21 years sweetie....If you have been I think you should consider going for some help with the grief.... I don't believe your child would want you to suffer for your lifetime... I think the way you could honour her the most is to live well... If you're unable to do that there is a lot of help for grief....to help us to work through it.... Big hug for you and a blessing....xo
Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
I can not imagine a loss like that. I am so sorry that you lost a child at such a young age.

I do agree with Sun, if you have been this profoundly sad for 21 years, please find a grief class. The loss of a child, and such a young one too, is a very complex loss to process.

Gentle hugs
Janine78
Janine78
Thank you both kindly. Some times I am ok others it's overwhelming still. I have tried several types of support, but found very little helpful beyond temporary.

Sometimes I feel I will never be ok again.

My boyfriend is going to help me mark the day (2 days until her birthday now). I am writing a message to put in a bottle with a card and some pink and silver stars, we will then throw it into the sea on a trip to the coast on her birthday.

I still miss her so!
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