Bedwetting Support Group
Bedwetting (or nocturnal enuresis or sleepwetting) is involuntary urination while asleep. It is the normal state of affairs in infancy, but can be a source of embarrassment when it persists into school age or the teen or adult years. Find others who are coping with a bedwetting problem and share your experiences and questions.
I wet the bed up until I was about 9, then it stopped for several years. It started back up again when I was 16. At first it was once every few nights, then it started happening every night, and after a few months started happening during the day as well. I Always had support form my dad and mom going through this. The other kids, so far as I know, don't know about the issue. Anyways, last summer, my dad said it would be good for me to go to a farm for the summer. I wasn't going to let my bed wetting issue play a role as to whether or not I would go, so I decided I would go. A miracle happened about a month before it was time to go, it all just stopped. I had dry nights again. I felt really positive about going to the farm. Not a single night at the farm had I had an accident. I thought for sure I was cured. I was so thankful that it didn't happen during that summer.
I came home, and everything was fine for a few weeks, then it started right back up, but it was better, lots better. It did happen every night, but there were no day accidents. It still bothered me that it was happening though. I had no idea what was causing it to happen. We had already went to a urologist and that didn't help. I'm not sure if this is going to ever stop completely.
Now, I am almost 18. I am afraid it will happen during the day; even though, for a few weeks, I only wet the bed about once a week. I'm not sure if it's going to start getting worse again, or if it's going to get better. I always appreciate the breaks I get.
A few questions I have are:
How do you not think about it so much? I don't think about it constantly, but to me it seems a bit excessive at times.
Before I get married, how do I tell them my problem?
What do I do if someone finds out that I don't want to know?
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Hello everyone IAM back in the mental health unit at hospital I've been sectioned under the mental health act for my own safety my daughter as been taken into care
For your questions, I’d say everyone is different, and what may be good for one might not necessarily work for someone else, but I can give you my view to see if it helps, and maybe others can give their take as well.
For trying not to think about it? I don’t think you can help thinking about it. Every time I put on protection I think about it, and the same when you get that familiar feeling having used it and if you need to change, where. But, and this is a big but, if you get to a position where you regularly need protection, it does become more of a routine and less of something your always focusing on.
Relationships? I think this is the hardest of your 3 questions. I feel extremely lucky to be in a relationship with a wonderful girl that has never seen it as an issue (as long as it’s managed), but it took a long long time before I told her. I never intended to get into a relationship, but we met through work and spent a lot of time together before things started to develop. One evening together she noticed something and I then just told her everything. I was only able to tell her because I’d known her for long enough that I felt I could trust her, even if it meant she didn’t want to continue with me, and I knew I wanted a chance to be with her. My suggestion is only say something when you feel you can trust her and you know you want a future with her. It’s a difficult thing to have to tell, and if your with her long enough to know that, she should understand your reasons for telling her when you do.
Final question, what to do if someone you don’t want finds out? Act like it doesn’t bother you, then they’ll get bored and move on. If you react, then you give them what they want and they won’t stop. It’s so important your initial reaction is to shrug your shoulders and just say it is what it is. I’ve made jokes that my bladder thinks it’s Benjamin Button, and it was dry as a desert when I was born. But most importantly - don’t react.
I hope this helps a little, and I hope things get better for you. If you’d like to chat or ask questions feel free to PM me or reply on this thread, we’re all here to help support each other.
I'm older than you but only recently found what the medical cause of my bed wetting. It took a couple of different Doctors (initially they thought I had a type of diabetes but that wasn't the case. I have Over Active Bladder which has caused Nocturnal Enuresis).
I have recently made changes to my diet which has helped, cutting down on foods and drinks that stimulate the bladder. I have also been wearing protection at night. My pride has been a hard thing to overcome but I am slowly getting there. Definitely persist medically, it might take a while but i'm sure you will find a positive result eventually which will help you mentally, as well as physically.
Cassiec, I totally get where you're coming from. As a male bed wetter, I have had very few girlfriends through my life, In fact I tend to shy away from many social situations just in case I come across someone I like but I feel to embarrassed to even have a proper conversation with them, just in case they might like me and things start to progress but at some point I would have to inform them of my issue and the thought of that alone sends a shiver down my spine. I have already had 3 instances of being with someone, not telling them and they found out when I wet the bed with them in it. The absolute nightmare. However, as I'm getting older I am trying to break out this negative head space because I definitely want a relationship with someone. I have nothing but male friends and over the last 6 months, I have opened up to some of them about what I've been dealing, and they have responded positively with nothing but love and support. It certainly makes me feel like I wish I had confronted my feelings of shame and embarrassment earlier in life. But we live and learn. Times are changing, the world is trying to change for the better in some ways, so I hope you are able to find a way to overcome any negative feelings this issue has caused. Everything in life is a process, but making little steps gets us to where we want to be. Eventually.
Hope this helps. We are never alone no matter what we are going through, and a site like this helps remind us of that.
Thank you :)
I know what you mean, I'm just venting cause how hard it is to meet guys and talk to the ones i really like. Im sure I'll meet someone someday. I try to make the best of everything but some times I get overwhelmed. I'm trying, everyday I'm trying.....
All the best
I guess it's actually kind of good that I think about it, because it means it isn't a routine I've gotten used to... if that makes sense.
I guess the other two questions will resolve themselves as the situation comes. It helps having a rough guideline for what to say though.
The problem is back to happening every night, but other than that, everything is going pretty well in my life.
Well I have been wetting my bed from the first day I was born, now I am 16 soon 17 and I never had a sleepover or gone to a trip. None of my friend knows about the issue and my familly is very supportive, but I am the older daughter and I feel ashame because all my brothers and they are younger have stop wetting their bed at the age of 4 or 5 and I have a 3 years old sister that is going to stop soon. It's very hard for me as I have to no one to speak about this and see thta their is other teenagers of my age that are going through the same problems is giving me hope that I would stop one day. This summer I am going summer camp with my friends and I am very frightned because I will be sleeping in shared room with other people of my class and I am very worried to have an accident.
Do you think I should cancel? or shoule I face and humiliate myself their?
This link might help Elisa
I was lucky last summer. It didn't happen a single night. Though, they joked about diapers every time someone "let one out" That was a bit embarrassing, but I just laughed along with everyone else. It was just boys being boys.
Ha! I remember when we went swimming there the first time. It was at an indoor swimming place, there was someone there they knew. They were telling them that they had new boys for the farm during the summer. I was an obedient one. The person I was with jokingly said, "This'n is pretty good, he puts on his pull-ups on without any help" He had no idea that a few months prior I had the problem I had.