It sucks that they are doing it. But I can also see where they are coming from. It is a long car ride. But My advice is to help her with having to wear them. Maybe give her a little bit of a pep talk. Maybe if she can show her parents she can stay dry during the day they will change their minds once you get to your destination. I know this has got to be so hard for her. It is really hard for little kids to have to go back to diapers. Just tell her not to think about the diapers and to just use the potty like she usually does and to have a good time even if she has to be in a diaper.

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i'll try to do that and to help her having to wear them. i don't really know what to say to her about it other than i'm sorry that our parents are making her wear them in the day time. it is going to be really hard for her and i know that she's not going to be very happy if she's wearing diapers when she's not going to bed. she wears them now to bed but hates it when she has to get them on when she thinks it's too early for them, like if she wants to be up later or is going to but my parents make her get them on anyways.
i know it is a long car ride and i know she might fall asleep but we're still driving during the daytime. she won't be sleeping then but she'll still be in her diapers which she isn't liking. i'll tell her to tell my parents or even me when she has to go potty so she doesn't have to go in her diaper and then maybe my parents will change their mind. she doesn't like going in her diapers anyways and that's the 1 thing she is worried about. i don't know what to really talk to her about to give her a pep talk about it, just that i won't say anything bad about the diapers or make her feel bad for having to be in them. thanksand hugs :)
Jessalyn

I am sure some people will think this idea is crazy, but if you truly feel bad for your sister, you may consider being in the same boat as her for the trip.

If your parents aren't going to change their minds about things you could offer to wear them too so that shes not alone? Maybe that would make the trip less embarrassing for her.

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i don't think it's a crazy idea, maybe it would work but I don't know what my parents would think if i asked to wear them too because I don't need them. They might think i was crazy! lol. It probably might make her feel less embarrassed wearing them if i was too but I don't know if that would really help her. She'd probably still be embarrassed. She doesn't go on any sleepovers and she won't have any here with her friends because she has to wear diapers to bed. I feel bad for her that she won't that kind of stuff. I have my friends over here all the time but she gets embarrassed even around them when it's time for her to have to get the diapers on. She ca get them on sort of but not the best way so she get's lots of help getting them on, when anyone else is here but us, she get's a all freaky about it because one of our parents is always helping her get ready for bed, getting her diaper on. she wants complete privacy which i totally understand, Me and my friends always give her that. We still have babysitters sometimes and it took her a really long time to get over the idea of a babysitter knowing about her bed wetting still. I'm 14 now, so unless my parents are gone all night, like overnight, I do the babysitting. But if it's like their gone for over night or whatever we have a 18 year old girl we know now watch us. It took forever for my sister to get used to her. So i know my sister is still really really totally embarrassed by wearing diapers still.
I still think it's a bad idea to make her wear the diapers during the daytime on the trip, especially since she really doesn't have day time accidents that much. BUT as my mom told me, it's not my choice to make but theirs so i keep my mouth shut about it now. I just need ideas on how to help her feel better wearing them while we are away.
:) Jessalyn

In my option wearing for the long car ride is a good idea and maybe she make a deal with your parents if she can stay dry for the car trip then she doesn't have wear during day when you get to calf. and on the ride back and the idea of you wearing to show your support for her is a good one and your parents needn't know good luck

It is hard to make a kid feel good about their diapers. They are still in that stage where "diapers are for babies" They want to feel grown up. So that is one reason why they have such a hard time with it. As far as you wearing a diaper one thing to bring it up to your parents is this. And I am not saying word for word but the Idea. Maybe go to them and tell them that you know they have decided to have her wear the diapers during the day for the ride. Tell them that she has expressed to you that she is not very happy about it. Maybe say to them that you want to show her that Diapers are not all that bad and there is not much to be embarrassed about. Tell them (if you are truly willing to do this) That you would like to wear a diaper for the trip to give her the support and help her learn that they are not so bad.
I think this will go a long way to show her how much you care and show her also that you are supporting her.
I would not necessarily pursue trying to get your parents to let her get out of them for the trip. They just want to avoid any accidents. I think it is important that they let her at least try to use the potty when ever she can. Maybe ask them if they are planning on letting her use the toilet or if they are making her use the diaper.
Just be there to reassure her, that everything is ok.

Oh also wanted to ask, You mentioned she has issues with getting them on well. Is she still in an actual diaper or is she using pullups. It is important for a child to be able to handle putting it on by themselves. That gives them a sense of control. So maybe they can have her wear pull ups for the trip instead of a diaper.

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Yeah she is still in an actual diaper, she doesn't wear pull ups but actual diapers. Her's are made by Attends. My parents have her wearing actual diapers because when they did have her try the pull ups, they leaked a lot so they got her the diapers. she can get them on but not good enough for my parents or at least not the right way or tight enough. Her's have the 4 tape sticky tabs on them so her getting them on in the right spot is tough for her i guess. She can get them no problem but getting them on is a problem for her and if she doesn't do it right, they leak too. I know she wants to be able to do them herself but just can't seem to do it.
i can see why my parents are making her wear the diapers in the car but maybe only if it's like later or at night in the car. Not during the daytime but I guess I can see why. I just don't think it's fair to my sister but yeah, maybe she'll fall asleep in the car or get tired and then wet her pants. I'm not really sure if they will make her wear them once we get to California. I didn't really get an answer from my mom saying they were going to make her wear them in California. My dad told my sister that MAYBE they'll have her wearing them there too, not exactly sure yet. I didn't ask my sister or my parents yet if they plan on packing her some underwear? Maybe I'll ask that, I'll ask my sister first, if she don't know then I'll ask my mom.
I'm not sure if I myself really want to wear diapers. I mean I want to support my sister but I don't know if I want to go that far. Maybe, I'll keep it open for now. I'm pretty sure my parents will stop for bathroom breaks. I'll need a bathroom myself!! I hope they plan on it. I'm sure they will. We are driving but stopping over night before we get the California. My dad did tell me it will take 2 days to get there. I'm done trying to get my parents to change their mind about my sister, I know it annoys them when I was asking about it. If I keep bringing it up, I'll probably get myself in trouble with them. I can ask my sister to ask my parents for pull ups but I don't think they'll let her, they don't at home so they probably won't go out and buy them just for the trip. I wish they would but they won't I don't think so.
My sister is still pretty upset about it, you're right, she does think diapers are for babies so her wearing them all day too is only worse for her. I know she doesn't like them for comfort reasons and that she thinks everyone knows she's wearing them when she is in diapers, so she's afraid of that happening all day now. In the car probably no problem but when we get out of the car, I know she'll be afraid of embarrassment just from still wearing the diapers. I can say I don't blame her, if it was me I'd probably feel the same way. I try telling her not to worry about that stuff but you probably know it doesn't always work. Whatever happens, I'll support her anyways.
Thank for all the help, Jessalyn

have her ask if she could use pull ups and plastic plants at least it would give her the privacy of putting them on her self also has she been seen by a Docfor for her bed wettingand if so want have they said

I would say bring her on to this website with you so she can see that she's not the only one who has to deal with this issue. There are plenty of people in this world that deal with bedwetting and wearing diapers during the day, myself included. If she knows she's not the only one it might make her feel better, it's probably a good idea to have your parents go on the website with her so they can deem what is appropriate content to share with her.

Yes, I would urge caution about inviting a young child on a site like this. There are a lot of adults here who talk about adult topics, including some who unfortunately only do so in private messages that cannot easily be screened. Definitely have your parents supervise any talking she (or you) do about this online, and never accept any private messages or invitations to privately chat on a different site. Safety first!

I am not bringing her on here, she's too young anyways. I know what you mean about being safe, I do all the time.
Thank you :) Jessalyn

I found out that my sister won't be wearing or using pull ups, just the diapers. I kind of hinted at me wearing a diaper to show support to my sister, my mom didn't think it would be a good idea. She told me she didn't like it because I don't need them and since they have to bring along enough diapers for my sister, they didn't want me to waste them. My mom said she appreciates me wanting to show support but that wearing a diaper too isn't the right way to do that. She suggested being friendly and supportive of my sister and never pointing out her diapers in public. My mom told me they are planning on bringing my sister some underwear but that they still expect her to wear the diapers mostly. she said that whatever we do that will determine what my sister will be wearing.
Jessalyn

WEll I am glad they are planning to bring her underwear.
As far as the diapers they are using, I have worn those and they leak like crazy. It might be good to find another diaper. I know there is a company that sells some good ones and they sell them in youth sizes as well. Check out dignitywithdiapers.com
Um and I understand how it is hard for her to do them on her own I am an adult and still get them on wrong sometimes. My boyfriend often does my changes.
I would say that with the trip just stay positive and support her. there is not much you can do. I know that on vacation finding a bathroom is not always easy. I know she does not like it but it may be the way it has to go. Just help her to feel better about it. I know somethings that could help her feel better is Decorating them. Once she gets a diaper on maybe she could put stickers of her favorite Disney character or something on them. Make her feel a little better about it. I have heard of a couple other people doing that with kids.

I am glad and happy they are letting her bring some underwear too, hope she'll get to wear it some time while we are away. I still think though that my parents will want her to wear the diapers. I know we are all going out tonight for fireworks and they already told her that before we go, she's going to have to get a diaper on and wear that to the fireworks show by us.
I'm not sure how much her diapers do actually leak, we don't share a room so I never really know if she leaked at night but i don't think so. I'm sure if she did have tons of leaks, my parents would have gotten her different diapers. I know that whatever leaks she does get it's because my sister didn't put them on the right way or tight enough, that's why my parents help her get them on. They do a lot of checking the tapes on them to make sure she's got them no right.
I'll tell my sister about trying to decorate them with stickers, maybe that will help her feel better about wearing them.