Hopefully she has been able to outgrow this, I see this post is a couple years old. That is a very humiliating problem, she is growing into a young adult and still in diapers. I hope you do whatever possible to approach this in the most mature manner. I cannot imagine anything more horrifying.

Hi I have been in her shoes before. Not only did I wet the bed but I wet myself during the day as well. I remember myself not being able to hold my bladder. I wet myself at school often. I did not know what was wrong with me. My parents would have to bring me extra clothes every time. One thing my parents did that really helped was when they brought me my clothes they did not look at my in disappointment. They did not get angry, yell, argue, laugh, or make me feel bad. I was ashamed of myself and all I wanted to do was just stop. My mom would talk to me and tell me softly to just try your best to hold it and ask to go to the washroom. The anxiety of school and everything that was going on with me contributed to me having accidents throughout the day. My parents would come into the office at school and I could see they were tired, and it upset me to have them feel burdened. I tried so hard but my bladder was I know now underdeveloped as well as other factors. There were days I would try my best and eventually I would have less and less accidents during the day. Mind you I still had rare accidents during the day until the age of 13. I wet the bed at night until the age of 15. I had to go to camps overnight, sleepovers, and vacations. The worry of wetting the bed, the bullying, the constant hiding of my condition was on a daily basis. The diapers did not help because they leaked though. I would always remember waking up as early as I could to wash the bedding or to do my best to dry the mattress. I remember the smell that came along with wetting the bed. You have to wash up really well otherwise the smell stuck to you like glue. My parents were hard workers, we grew up sleeping all together in one bedroom, with 2 siblings. My dad not once ever screamed at me nor did he complain nor did I ever feel like i disappointed him, since I slept beside him my pee would gravitate towards him all the time. My mom was harder on me, she just really wanted me to stop, as she washed the bulk of our bedding. I remember me in a panic and crying just trying to scrub the bed and dry it before she came home from work, I did not know how to wash the bedding yet. Even though she was hard on me I knew she loved me and she tried her best help. Back then, goodnites were unheard of. With the world against me my parents did their best and more. I did not feel good about myself, and going to places for a night other than home terrified me. Some nights I did not sleep just so I would not wet the bed. Finally goodnites came just in time for camp, but they leaked through and I scrambled in the morning to just hide it from everyone especially due to my bullies being in the cabin with me. Goodnites get bulky when wet,so i was so ashamed walking towards the toilet. I remember pouring shampoo in my sleepingbag to hide the smell.

All of this convinced me to help others. I started a small shop selling soaker pads designed as blankets for young ones, as well as preteens. I have more designs coming, and I hope it will help people out. I wish I had this, its designed to act as a blanket without anyone knowing its a soaker pad. I remember growing up and telling my aunt I would sleep in a garbage bag so I would not wet her bed.. she told me never in your life will you ever with me....Its things like that really helped me. Being a kid or teen is hard enough when you also have to deal with accidents. I got really good at hiding it, but I also had a hard time opening up to people growing up. So having your parent or loved one buy this would really make one feel loved, supported, and understood; especially when things in life are tough enough as it is. I also custom make them to be any size you want or style. The mediums you can really wrap yourself up in and walk to the bathroom without leaking everywhere. My best advice to any parent or caregiver is to be patient, get informed, help them get into a routine during the day and at night(my parents woke up every 2-3 hours at night to bring me to the washroom, it did help because I then started to wake up on my own, but I still had accidents until I was 15). Everyone is different and having your child or preteen wear diapers while they are out might make them feel terrible about themselves, (bring extra clothes and wipes) We live only once and what our caregivers do really impact us. Be dedicated, let them feel like it will be ok, that you will get through this together, teach them to me independent, and get informed. I know its hard on the caregivers, so teach them to clean up after themselves (its a must), it will give them confidence and feel like they are less of a burden. The pads I make really soak up well, if your loved one moves around a lot a bigger size is recommended.

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Hey sstacyr. Found this thread and realized it was a couple years old now. How are things going with Emily? I felt bad for her reading this. I wear diapers all the time myself, and had bowel problems growing up. There's lots of us girls out there who have to wear all the time. I am a professional now, and have not had any trouble with others noticing my wearing at all. Dresses/tights are my friend. Also, if you haven't already, ditch the pharmacy diapers and get decent ones online. They will be more comfortable. Hope all is well!

i am 14 yrs old and still have daytime bladder issues. and still have daytime wetting accidents but i not wear diapers in day time i only wear diapers at night
because i pee the bed every night

Its ok I also wear diapers to bed every night at age 27, its better than waking up in a swimming pool...