As a parent, grandparent, and dealing with anxiety myself, I can tell you that writing it out is the most important first step to take. Second, let your child vent and know that that is healthy release for their tension. Support them emotionally and you'll feel better.

Every time the "worry" happens, I say something positive because that gives focus on helping, which changes the way your body and brain cope with the conversation. Switching off the "worry" button right then is the best method to push through the feelings.

It's hard, and if you're wanting to look for ways to help, research on line for places that can provide resources.

Traffic, child care, and bosses are going to be a part of your child's normal daily living activities, so focus on ways to help minimize the distractions that are involving themselves in this event.

Best wishes. You are not alone.
Hope this helps.

My kids are little yet, but my first anxiety and panic attacks were over worry about their future. I had to convince myself that I was a good mother and I was teaching them everything they needed to know to function in the world. Good and bad things happen to everyone, but I am teaching them how to weather storms when bad things happen and enjoy good things. You can't stop your kids from experiencing disappointment or challenging situations, but you can know that you gave your kids the tools they need to handle them. As a bonus, you are there to be a sounding board for them when they need to talk or vent. I'm going through an infidelity revelation in my marriage and my mother has been a huge source of comfort and support even though the only thing she has said is "call whenever." You might be amazed to find that you've been everything your kids needs.

I am feeling what you are..My kids have me stressed..I dont know how to deal with this either? Glad im not the only mom to feel this tension..I pray it gets better for you! If you find out how to deal with this would you please share? Have a wonderful day

There is no one right way to handle it. Everyone is different.

It's normal to worry about your kids. In fact, I'd be more worried if you weren't concerned for them. No one wants their kids to go through tough times, but as has been said before this, we do what we can to prepare them for the difficulties. We try to avoid the "Everything will be all right" speech with our kids because that may not be true. Life is tough and challenging. Everyone will face difficulties at some point or another.

I have a mother who is overly worrisome, too. I tend to avoid telling her dramatic things until I know something for sure, or have some plan in place, because then she tends to overreact and get stressed, which just makes it worse for me. It's not that I don't want to share it with her, it just makes it harder when I do. Instead of focusing on whatever the situation is, I have to focus on keeping her calm as well.

So for my own kids, I try to be there without showing any real worry or concern. I want them to come to me when they have trouble, so I can be a support for them. I might not be able to fix their problem, but I know it means a lot to just get it out sometimes. It's not always easy. Mine are still fairly young but they've faced their share of troubles. Honesty and strength: that's what I try to focus on with them. Their troubles are about them, not about me.

But for those of us, like myself or like my mother, who tend to overthink, worry too much, and catastrophize everything, it's hard not to apply our knee-jerk way of thinking to other children's problems as well. I'm sure as mine get older, I'll struggle with that more. I just try to keep the focus on them, instead of me, as much as possible. Easier said than done.