He's responding in a way that shows he cares and he wants to help you more. It's not a problem that he does that, that's part of his listening. Hubs does the same thing sometimes, and I tell him thank you for listening and sharing with me. He then knows to drop any more 'wisdom'. That's my way of ending that particular conversation.

Here's to finding what works best for your healing!

Husband often are set on solving a problem and that's how their minds are geared to work. The fact that he does take the time to listen is huge. Not many do in my experience. My ex simply tuned out. Over time, your hubs will gradually get to understanding that being able to vent and getting hugs is really what you need most. Sending hugs and good vibes your way.

i'm told that i have the sensitivity of a bulldozer, but you'd never guess it from my anxiety levels. lots and lots of folks have assured me there is a hyper-sensitive girlie girl buried under my engineer's pragmatism but. . . not sure i want to take on THAT treasure hunt.

when i find myself claiming i know the facts of anxiety, i take off my proverbial know-it-all mask and put on some less opinionated honesty. facts of anxiety? ? ? the physical facts science has identified and can sometimes measure are easy enough to memorize and spout, but they don't stack up to much against the psychic realities of living with the manifestations, especially on those days when i am not in sync with my life partner. facts? ? ? are there facts in this psychic fog somewhere?

my life partnership is waaaaaay better than most. i believe that is because of, not in spite of the fact that neither of us expects the other to be our answer to everything. we both maintain support networks we can turn to in times of spousely disconnect.

i'm glad you felt safe coming here for support, sg. we're here for you, even when hubby can't be.

People who have never experienced the kind of anxiety we have are clueless. But on the other hand, it is not for us to expect them to understand, having never experienced it. Sometimes I figure our spouses, etc., get frustrated with us because of our condition. They want to help us feel better but simply cannot. We can’t go around expecting from them something they cannot give us. If we need something from them, it is up to us to ask it of them, they cannot read our minds. Just my thoughts on both sides of the relationship spectrum.

Men and women think differently. We women like to talk things out, perhaps over and over. Men like to solve problems. Generally speaking. Let him know you appreciate his caring but you need him just to listen and not give solutions? Or whatever you need from him. I sometimes use my journal to write out my overwhelming feelings and anxieties. . I share with my spouse but need other outlets at times.