Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Kayla13
Kayla13

I’m not sure if this is my anxiety or my depression probably both which is why mental illness sucks! I’m awake again it’s 4:30 and everyone in my house is asleep and I am cuddled on the couch with my cat watching Netflix because I can’t sleep. I’m exhausted I’m so so so exhausted but I’m so awake it doesn’t make sense. My ex contacted me and told me he was stupid and fucked up and wanted to try again maybe that’s what’s causing this? Honestly I haven’t felt this way since I was with him...gah! But I met someone who is perfect for me and gets me and wants me he wants me so bad he begged my friend for my number so he could get to know me and that is so sweet to me. But Idk how to tell my ex that I’m seeing someone that I’m happier now. I’m too nice I’m so afraid of someone hating me or me doing someone wrong that I worry and worry and worry about how I am going to solve something or say something so everyone wins...gosh maybe that’s why I am awake right now....idk what to do....anxiety sucks!!

Ghostdancer
Ghostdancer
Anxiety does suck, it’s got to be the worst part of this life I’m in. Hoping next year has a little more to offer, if not I’ll make that choice when I reach next month. Dang why did everything go so wrong? I don’t belong here is where it all leads.
michellebrand
michellebrand
I know for me I need to stop and think.. What am I really afraid of. I know that I am human, and humans are survivors, we are selfish and self centered to the core... Are you afraid to tell XB about NB because that would mean total closure. There would be no getting him back... It feels good that he FINALLY wants you back and you don't want that feeling to go away? Sorry.. These are all the things I would do... I would keep old on the book just in case.. I didn't mean all the "you" statements... Just giving my experience.
skye808
skye808
Don’t let your ex be able to control your feelings & circumstances.
Men tend to think sometimes when they’re feeling lonely or sad that they can go back to the person who was always there & see if they still are....
Anxiety is tough and deliberating. But breathe, be aware of your feelings & recognize your thoughts.
Dissect them.
And always remember to not let someone else control the way you feel.
Sending love.
sunnyface
sunnyface
I think it’s okay to pick whoever makes you happy! We can’t please everybody. There is always one that will feel hurt or left out. If you feel nothing for your ex then it is time to move on. If this other guy interests you, then get to know him and see if the relationship is worth pursuing. Boundaries are good! I think that they keep us safe from all sorts of unwanted emotions. You may find, that after making your decision and setting up some boundaries, a drop in your anxiety which could result in a better night’s rest! I do hope you find some peace and sleep soon!!
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Here's what I'm going to share, as a member of a huge and extended blended family with ex's, steps, and other relatives, do NOT share any information with the ex.

The holidays bring shared memories. Leave them as that, be kind and keep it simple. Listen, and leave it. Just because someone says something does NOT make it your problem. You respond in a way that works to improve your well-being, and their response will change as their usual response will no longer fit the conversation.
Best wishes.
morris_girl.00
morris_girl.00
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Hollydolly30
Hollydolly30
Don't allow your ex or anyone for that matter disrupt your inner peace. You said you were happy with the new guy so don't allow tour ex to disrupt that. You don't ha e to talk to your ex. You do not have to answer the phone or messages when your ex communicates. Remeber you are choosing to give this person attention so you are inviting unwanted anxiety.
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