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Week Two...Warning System
Amazing job on expressing your symptoms last week. At one point in my life I had pretty much every single one of them mentioned....really! There is a biological reason that you are experiencing these sensations....believe it or not your body is acting perfectly NORMAL....that's right, normal...there is nothing wrong with you!!! I will explain what I mean and discuss why below, but, for now I want to talk just about these symptoms.
OK, I will agree that these symptoms and the feelings that they cause are horrible. I will also agree that these symptoms can completely scare the heck out of you and make you feel absolutely awful. BUT,....I want you to realize that these symptoms are NOT your enemy. These symptoms will become the closest friend you will ever have. These symptoms will eventually warn you as to when to take action. These symptoms will always be at your side and will always be there to help you to make positive choices. Over the next few weeks I want you to learn to embrace these symptoms and the feelings they create.
OK...Are you rolling your eyes yet? You may be asking yourself.... "How am I suppose embrace these feelings when all they do is bring me to my knees?"
Well, we are going to change the way that we look at these symptoms. We are going to learn what they really are and how to use them to work in our favor....instead of against us.
From here on out when ever you begin to feel these symptoms coming on I want you to look at them as........(drum roll please).....your own personal......
"WARNING SYSTEM"!!!!!!!
Got that....Those first symptoms that you have when in a stressful situation will no longer be called a "symptoms".....they are now to be referred to as, your own personal......."WARNING SYSTEM"!!!
Here's how it works.
Just as you have current warning systems like a fire alarm that makes you quickly move to a safe location, or a timer on your stove that alerts you to check what ever is baking in the oven, or a door buzzer that gets you off the sofa to answer the door,.......this new "Warning System" will also alert you to take action.
This week we will talk about how we can use this new warning system in the event of a Panic Attack. In subsequent weeks we will use it to take appropriate actions to overcome other issues common with folks who think anxiously. I still use this warning system, even now, and I have been over the anxiety habit for five years. So let's finds out how to make this "Warning System" work for us.....instead of hurting us!
First, I need to talk about what causes Panic Attacks. Before we go any further, we all need to be clear on this. Panic attacks are not caused by situations or people in our lives...in other words they are not caused by driving the car, having a fight with our significant other, our tyrant boss, our mean teacher, going to a social gathering, dealing with problematic family members, taking a flight, going to the doctor, leaving your house, being away from your "safe person or place".....etc.
Panic attacks are caused by............. YOU!!!!
They are caused by your thoughts, your actions and reactions! Alright...now that you know what is causing all of this strife...go and change your thoughts, your actions and reactions......problem solved!!! You are now free to live a panic free, non anxious life!
Ahhhhh....Could it be that easy?
Well,......yes and no.
Example:
What if I told you that I was starting up a company and I needed you to accompany me on a business trip to be my translator in Arabic, Mandarin and Japanese. I would pay you $250,000.00 for this two week business trip and we are leaving this coming weekend.
Yikes....if you did not receive the tools in which to learn those languages, no matter what the payout, you could not complete this job!
Overcoming anxiety is the exact same thing. Even if the payout is fantastic, like, living a happy productive, peaceful, positive life....it is still impossible with out some essemblance of tools.
So to answer the question...can overcoming anxiety be that easy? Yes....with tools! No....if you don't even know what anxiety is and why you have it in the first place. So....if your with me so far......let's start understanding anxiety and what causes it! We will learn other tools along the way week by week. This way our brain can really have some time to make the changes needed to overcome this anxiety habit!
Are you ready to kick the habit?
Here we go.....
WHAT CAUSES PANIC ATTACKS?
Please bare with me if you know some of this stuff, but, understanding why our bodies do certain behaviors is imperative to learning how to control them. I promise you....this information all pertains to Panic Attacks. My goal here is to keep this simple...at least that is the way that I learn best.
UNDERSTANDING THE SYMPATHETIC VS THE PARASYMPATHETIC NERVOUS SYSTEMS!
OK....these two areas of our central nervous system are very important for us to understand. They are the main reasons that we have body symptoms....the calming and chaotic! Both have very important roles. Let's see what these systems are responsible for:
SYMPATHETIC NERVOUS SYSTEM (Aka...Fight or Flight System)
Increased Heart
Increased Respiration
Increased Perspiration
Increase Blood pressure
Decrease Digestion
Adrenaline release
PARASYMPATHETIC NERVOUS SYSTEM. (Aka...Rest and Digest)
Normal Heart Beat
Normal Respiration
Increase Digestion
Calmness
Healing takes place
Which one would you rather have workin for you? I have my hand raised for the Parasympathetic. But, let's not be so hard on the Sympathetic...(even though it is the main reason we have all of our negative symptoms). Let me take you back in time. Without the sympathetic nervous system our caveman ancestors would have never survived. They would never have had the instinct or energy to run away from or fight off the saber tooth tigers. We would not be here because our ancestors would have been a lovely smorgasbord for the tigers dinner. The sympathetic also keeps us safe today. Lets say you step off the curb to cross the street and out of nowhere, a bus comes barreling at you. If you didn't have that sympathetic nervous system your legs would not have the quick energy needed to jump out of the way. The adrenaline that the sympathetic nervous system releases makes us super human, in a way, to get us out of danger. Here's the problem though....all of us here with issues with anxiety have learned to make it a habit to kick on this sympathetic system at times that there is no visible danger. Unfortunately, all of this adrenaline is wasted on nothing and is completely responsible for all of our awful symptoms.
Speaking of symptoms.....it is important to understand why our bodies feel so uncomfortable when we activate our sympathetic nervous system. Knowing what is going on inside our wonderful bodies and realizing that these symptoms are actually POSITIVE...that's right Positive....it can help our brains to process the whole experience correctly.
Here goes....
Think about all of the symptoms you wrote down for Week One. This is your sympathetic nervous system working at its best. Let's see what those symptoms of yours really are. Below I have given a list of most of the symptoms from last week and why you would feel them. Hint...they are not there to make you miserable.
1) Heart beating a bit faster, Heart racing, Palpitations:
The body is preparing to fight or take flight. The blood has to move quickly from where it is currently to those muscles that are going to need a boost. The heart does it best to quicken its delivery to those areas of the body. Hence the heart speeds up to get the job done and keep your fighting or flighting body parts in top condition. Therefore, these are perfectly normal healthy symptoms!
2) Tingling, cool pale skin, pins and needle sensation:
The body is reducing the blood flow to the skin so that it can send the blood to more important areas like the muscles, certain parts of the brain involved with running or fighting, the eyes, nose and ears. This way you can think faster, smell, hear and see more acutely. Also, pulling blood away from the skin also protects you from bleeding due to the cuts and scrapes you will endure from the fight you may need to face. This will cause your skin to tingle or feel numb absolutely any where on your body....face, head, torso, arms, legs, lips, finger tips...etc. Therefore, these are perfectly normal heathy symptoms!
3) Sweating:
As your body prepares to fight off what ever perceived danger is coming your way....it realizes that you are going to heat up as you prepare to wrestle what ever beast that is about to attack. Sweating cools you down while you are fighting so that you don't over heat. Palms, pits, head, back, chest...anywhere on the body that you have skin you will sweat. Therefore, these are perfectly normal healthy symptoms!
4) Tunnel Vision, hard to focus, difficulty seeing:
Your pupils actually dilate to let more light in. After all you do need to see what is about to attack...right? This make it hard to focus and see clearly. Some people can only see what is right in front of them. Makes sense focusing on the object that you are about to fight which would be in your arms length only...right? Anything beyond your arms...you would be running like heck to escape...right? Therefore, these are perfectly normal healthy symptoms!
5) Dry mouth, unable to swallow, nausea, unable to eat, feeling sick to stomach, diarrhea, needing to urinate, feeling of butterflies or bees in stomach:
Gastric juices and saliva production decreases because blood flow to the digestive system is shut down. Your body will eliminate anything currently in the digestive track in order to help you be a bit lighter on your feet when fleeing the scene. After all it more important to save your life then digest that hot dog and fries you had for lunch! Haha! Therefore, these are perfectly normal healthy symptoms!
6) Confusion, feeling of not being in reality, unable to think, feeling lightheaded, derealization, unable to concentrate:
Again the blood flow is all about the muscles at this point and will take away from other areas that do nothing to help you run or fight. This temporary blood rush to muscles will decrease flow to the brain a bit. When you are under attack...you definitely do not need to think...you just need to survive...bloods not so important in our grey matter at this time. Therefore these are perfectly normal healthy symptoms!
7) Shakiness, weakness, jelly legs:
This is just a reaction of adrenaline sitting in your cells not being used up by running or fighting. Get up, walk around, go out for a run, clean the house, hop, dance the funky chicken...use up the adrenaline and those sensations will go away! Again, these are perfectly normal healthy symptoms!
8) Fatigue, tiredness, exhaustion, depression:
Well after experiencing all of the above your body has to have a break!!! These symptoms are there to allow your body a much needed rest!!!
Does this make sense as to why you feel these awful feelings...do you now understand why these feelings really are not that awful? They are there...and only there, to HELP you!!! Granted they don't feel the greatest when you don't know what they are but they really are your friend...believe me, the sympathetic nervous system does not want to turn on.....it gives you those early "warning system" feelings so that it doesn't have to. Therefore, all you need to do now is to learn how to turn this fight or flight system off before it goes into panic.
Here is the question that we have all been waiting for....
So...how do we turn the sympathetic nervous system off???
Answer:
By noticing your "Warning System" and turning on the Parasympathetic Nervous System. OK, this may sound totally easy but the way to turn this parasympathetic system on is by:
1) Taking some slow deep breaths.
2) Talking compassionately, positively and logically to yourself.
3) THATS IT!!!!
(***see note below)
Let's walk through an example of an panic attack/anxiety attack. The first example is NOT using the warning system. The second example is using the warning system. Which one works out better?
PANIC ATTACK EXAMPLE:
Let's say, you have to drive into the city for an appointment. The morning of, as you are getting ready to leave, you start to think....oh boy, I have to drive all the way downtown, with all of that crazy traffic and congestion. I hate driving in those conditions.
(Sympathetic nervous system is engaged. Adrenaline is released. Heart starts to beat faster)
You put on your coat and grab your keys and think....oh no, what if I get in a traffic jam. What if I begin to not feel well.
(More adrenaline released. Heart begins to beat a lot faster, you also begin to sweat a bit)
You now walk to the car and slip into the seat. While adjusting the mirror you start to think....what if I really get sick while driving and loose control of the car, what if I get in an accident.
(More adrenaline. Heart is going a mile a minute, your arms and legs feel weak, it feels like you may not be getting enough air into your lungs)
Now you are thinking...oh no...am I having a heart attack. What is wrong with me. I can't catch my breath.
(The effect of the adrenaline are now being felt. You are light headed, feeling a little dizzy, you are having a hard time focusing)
You decide to get out of the car and go back in the house to lay down. You make it to your bed.
(Now your heart rate is slower but you are so scared about what just happened. You now lay there exhausted, scared and depressed. On top of that....you are now afraid to go back into the car!!!....(this is a "Trigger" now, we will talk about this next weeks))
HERE IS HOW TO STOP THE PANIC ATTACK HABIT USING YOUR... "WARNING SYSTEM"
SAME EXAMPLE:
Let's say, you have to drive into the city for an appointment. The morning of, as you are getting ready to leave, you start to think....oh boy, I have to drive all the way downtown, with all of that crazy traffic and congestion. I hate driving in those conditions.
(Sympathetic nervous system is engaged. Heart begins to beat faster)
Whoa what was that?....why is my heart beating faster? When my heart is beating faster then usual this is my "Warning System"
(You now have a choice....either choose to ignore your warning system and end up like above in a full fledge panic attack OR begin to activate that parasympathetic system that everyone of us has access to)
Alright, my "Warning System" has been activated! OK....what do I need to do?...oh yeah, there were two steps....step 1...take some slow deep breaths. In through my nose counting up to five. One, two, three, four five. Now out through pursed lips. Five, four, three, two, one. I think I will do this a few more times. In...one, two, three, four, five. Out....five, four, three, two, one. In....one, two, three, four, five. Out...five, four, three, two, one.
(Heart rate slows a bit because of slow deep breathing)
Alright, I did some slow breaths, now step 2....I need to talk compassionately and logically to myself. OK...I have to drive into the city and yes, there may be some traffic...so.....maybe I can listen to that book on tape while I drive today, or turn on my favorite radio talk show. I could stop by the coffee shop and grab a decaf mocha coffee or I could even make a green tea here at home to go.
(Breathing is back to normal)
You put on your coat and grab your keys....oh no, what if I get sick while driving?
(Heart rate picks up again)
There's my warning system again. Take some more slow deep breaths and talk compassionately. OK....I have made this a habit to be scared when I drive. I won't get sick....that's just a scary thought and those feelings were my sympathetic nervous system wanting to turn on. It was just a little adrenaline and adrenaline can never hurt me. Nothing to worry about. I can change this habit by talking compassionately, positively and logically to myself. You are going to be OK.....you have driven downtown before and you can do it again and again. You are going to give yourself some time to overcome this negative thought habit. It took you a long time to develop this fear it will take a little bit of time till it no longer bothers you. It will go away if I keep facing it and retrain my brain to a more positive outlook on driving.
(Heart rate returns to normal)
You now walk to the car and slip into the seat. While adjusting the mirror you start to think....I can do this. I just have to keep an eye out for my warning system and if it turns on then activate my parasympathetic system. Take a few breaths and talk logically and compassionately to myself.....I CAN DO THIS!
(Calm, Still have all of your energy, and a bit more confidence)
You drive to get your hot beverage for your ride into the city!
HOMEWORK
1) Watch for your "Warning System"
2) If it is activated......Turn on your Parasympathetic Nervous System
a) Take Slow Deep Breaths. (***see note below)
b) Talk Compassionately, Positively, and Logically
3) Still keep it slow
4) Purchase or find a little notebook that you can carry with you at all times. We will need it starting next week.
Let me know during the week of you have any examples of your warning system turning on and how you manage working through it. Remember you are just starting on this practice...don't expect perfect. It will get easier and easier every time you use it though. We have a lot more to learn over the coming weeks that will help also.
Remember panic attacks did not happen over night. They may have seemed like they did but it took time to create those negative thoughts that scare you. It will take some practice to change those thoughts. We will work next week on those thoughts exclusively.
Until then....
My best to you!
***Note
(from the above homework assignment)
If you are anything like me...my panic attacks, in the beginning, before I really understood what the were...were so fast that step one...the slow deep breaths needed a little booster shot..so to say. Remember...the breaths are the true key here because they are the ultimate reason why your parasympathetic nervous system turns on. This is science...it's a fact....but if you are really in a state where you have gone a bit past your initial warning system and you are heading into panic (which is OK....your new at changing this...right?...as long as you keep working on this...you will eventually get this)....then here is what to do.....
First...definitely do your slow deep breaths...this is the key. While you are doing the slow deep breaths...and talking compassionately to yourself....start adding distraction. I have found the best way to do this is by using your senses. First off senses are always with you...they are free...haha...and they work wonders for helping you to stop the negative thoughts that automatically started the panic to begin with.
You can go in any order you want but go through every sense you have...there are 5 of them...so take your time and really pay attention to each of them. To ahead and try this out right now by asking yourself the below questions....
1) What do I feel right now?
Really allow your fingers to tell you exactly what they are feeling, cold, hot, bumpy, rough, smooth, soft...explore what ever is around you. Close your eyes if this will help you focus....(unless you are driving a car or operating heavy machinery). Enjoy the sensation!
2) What do I hear?
Is it loud, quite, do I hear birds, airplanes, cars, music, talking,...try to hear sounds that are further and further away. Close your eyes and see of you can hear anything else....(again, as long as you are not driving a car or operating any heavy machinery...haha!)
3)What do I smell?
Is it sweet, stinky, pleasant...etc. Does it make you hungry...is the smell familiar, unusual?
4) What do I taste?
Is there something nearby that you can put in your mouth? Is there something you ate recently that you can still savor?
5) What do I see?
Notice what is in front of you...colors, shapes, sizes, beauty, brightness, textures. Look further and further away...what is the furthest thing you can focus on.
Distraction is a powerful tool. Some folks carry worry stones, or prayer cards, or pictures. I know when I was overcoming my fear of driving...I would always have a bottle of water with one of those pop-up squirt tops...the kind they sell at convenience stores. Anyways, if my warning system went off, while I was driving...I would pick up my water bottle and start taking slow sips on the bottle. Not only would this slow my breath but it was a great way to engage my senses. The coolness of the bottle in my hand (touch)...the way the bottle was shaped (see)...the water in my mouth (taste)...the sound the bottle would make as I sipped (hear)...well, there isn't much to smell with water...but, you get my point!
Anyways....give those senses a whirl. Also use them when you are calm for practice. Try deep slow breathing while you are enjoying your senses. I think you will be amazed on what you don't pay attention to....until you begin to pay attention!!!!
As always...my best to you!
Amazing job on expressing your symptoms last week. At one point in my life I had pretty much every single one of them mentioned....really! There is a biological reason that you are experiencing these sensations....believe it or not your body is acting perfectly NORMAL....that's right, normal...there is nothing wrong with you!!! I will explain what I mean and discuss why below, but, for now I want to talk just about these symptoms.
OK, I will agree that these symptoms and the feelings that they cause are horrible. I will also agree that these symptoms can completely scare the heck out of you and make you feel absolutely awful. BUT,....I want you to realize that these symptoms are NOT your enemy. These symptoms will become the closest friend you will ever have. These symptoms will eventually warn you as to when to take action. These symptoms will always be at your side and will always be there to help you to make positive choices. Over the next few weeks I want you to learn to embrace these symptoms and the feelings they create.
OK...Are you rolling your eyes yet? You may be asking yourself.... "How am I suppose embrace these feelings when all they do is bring me to my knees?"
Well, we are going to change the way that we look at these symptoms. We are going to learn what they really are and how to use them to work in our favor....instead of against us.
From here on out when ever you begin to feel these symptoms coming on I want you to look at them as........(drum roll please).....your own personal......
"WARNING SYSTEM"!!!!!!!
Got that....Those first symptoms that you have when in a stressful situation will no longer be called a "symptoms".....they are now to be referred to as, your own personal......."WARNING SYSTEM"!!!
Here's how it works.
Just as you have current warning systems like a fire alarm that makes you quickly move to a safe location, or a timer on your stove that alerts you to check what ever is baking in the oven, or a door buzzer that gets you off the sofa to answer the door,.......this new "Warning System" will also alert you to take action.
This week we will talk about how we can use this new warning system in the event of a Panic Attack. In subsequent weeks we will use it to take appropriate actions to overcome other issues common with folks who think anxiously. I still use this warning system, even now, and I have been over the anxiety habit for five years. So let's finds out how to make this "Warning System" work for us.....instead of hurting us!
First, I need to talk about what causes Panic Attacks. Before we go any further, we all need to be clear on this. Panic attacks are not caused by situations or people in our lives...in other words they are not caused by driving the car, having a fight with our significant other, our tyrant boss, our mean teacher, going to a social gathering, dealing with problematic family members, taking a flight, going to the doctor, leaving your house, being away from your "safe person or place".....etc.
Panic attacks are caused by............. YOU!!!!
They are caused by your thoughts, your actions and reactions! Alright...now that you know what is causing all of this strife...go and change your thoughts, your actions and reactions......problem solved!!! You are now free to live a panic free, non anxious life!
Ahhhhh....Could it be that easy?
Well,......yes and no.
Example:
What if I told you that I was starting up a company and I needed you to accompany me on a business trip to be my translator in Arabic, Mandarin and Japanese. I would pay you $250,000.00 for this two week business trip and we are leaving this coming weekend.
Yikes....if you did not receive the tools in which to learn those languages, no matter what the payout, you could not complete this job!
Overcoming anxiety is the exact same thing. Even if the payout is fantastic, like, living a happy productive, peaceful, positive life....it is still impossible with out some essemblance of tools.
So to answer the question...can overcoming anxiety be that easy? Yes....with tools! No....if you don't even know what anxiety is and why you have it in the first place. So....if your with me so far......let's start understanding anxiety and what causes it! We will learn other tools along the way week by week. This way our brain can really have some time to make the changes needed to overcome this anxiety habit!
Are you ready to kick the habit?
Here we go.....
WHAT CAUSES PANIC ATTACKS?
Please bare with me if you know some of this stuff, but, understanding why our bodies do certain behaviors is imperative to learning how to control them. I promise you....this information all pertains to Panic Attacks. My goal here is to keep this simple...at least that is the way that I learn best.
UNDERSTANDING THE SYMPATHETIC VS THE PARASYMPATHETIC NERVOUS SYSTEMS!
OK....these two areas of our central nervous system are very important for us to understand. They are the main reasons that we have body symptoms....the calming and chaotic! Both have very important roles. Let's see what these systems are responsible for:
SYMPATHETIC NERVOUS SYSTEM (Aka...Fight or Flight System)
Increased Heart
Increased Respiration
Increased Perspiration
Increase Blood pressure
Decrease Digestion
Adrenaline release
PARASYMPATHETIC NERVOUS SYSTEM. (Aka...Rest and Digest)
Normal Heart Beat
Normal Respiration
Increase Digestion
Calmness
Healing takes place
Which one would you rather have workin for you? I have my hand raised for the Parasympathetic. But, let's not be so hard on the Sympathetic...(even though it is the main reason we have all of our negative symptoms). Let me take you back in time. Without the sympathetic nervous system our caveman ancestors would have never survived. They would never have had the instinct or energy to run away from or fight off the saber tooth tigers. We would not be here because our ancestors would have been a lovely smorgasbord for the tigers dinner. The sympathetic also keeps us safe today. Lets say you step off the curb to cross the street and out of nowhere, a bus comes barreling at you. If you didn't have that sympathetic nervous system your legs would not have the quick energy needed to jump out of the way. The adrenaline that the sympathetic nervous system releases makes us super human, in a way, to get us out of danger. Here's the problem though....all of us here with issues with anxiety have learned to make it a habit to kick on this sympathetic system at times that there is no visible danger. Unfortunately, all of this adrenaline is wasted on nothing and is completely responsible for all of our awful symptoms.
Speaking of symptoms.....it is important to understand why our bodies feel so uncomfortable when we activate our sympathetic nervous system. Knowing what is going on inside our wonderful bodies and realizing that these symptoms are actually POSITIVE...that's right Positive....it can help our brains to process the whole experience correctly.
Here goes....
Think about all of the symptoms you wrote down for Week One. This is your sympathetic nervous system working at its best. Let's see what those symptoms of yours really are. Below I have given a list of most of the symptoms from last week and why you would feel them. Hint...they are not there to make you miserable.
1) Heart beating a bit faster, Heart racing, Palpitations:
The body is preparing to fight or take flight. The blood has to move quickly from where it is currently to those muscles that are going to need a boost. The heart does it best to quicken its delivery to those areas of the body. Hence the heart speeds up to get the job done and keep your fighting or flighting body parts in top condition. Therefore, these are perfectly normal healthy symptoms!
2) Tingling, cool pale skin, pins and needle sensation:
The body is reducing the blood flow to the skin so that it can send the blood to more important areas like the muscles, certain parts of the brain involved with running or fighting, the eyes, nose and ears. This way you can think faster, smell, hear and see more acutely. Also, pulling blood away from the skin also protects you from bleeding due to the cuts and scrapes you will endure from the fight you may need to face. This will cause your skin to tingle or feel numb absolutely any where on your body....face, head, torso, arms, legs, lips, finger tips...etc. Therefore, these are perfectly normal heathy symptoms!
3) Sweating:
As your body prepares to fight off what ever perceived danger is coming your way....it realizes that you are going to heat up as you prepare to wrestle what ever beast that is about to attack. Sweating cools you down while you are fighting so that you don't over heat. Palms, pits, head, back, chest...anywhere on the body that you have skin you will sweat. Therefore, these are perfectly normal healthy symptoms!
4) Tunnel Vision, hard to focus, difficulty seeing:
Your pupils actually dilate to let more light in. After all you do need to see what is about to attack...right? This make it hard to focus and see clearly. Some people can only see what is right in front of them. Makes sense focusing on the object that you are about to fight which would be in your arms length only...right? Anything beyond your arms...you would be running like heck to escape...right? Therefore, these are perfectly normal healthy symptoms!
5) Dry mouth, unable to swallow, nausea, unable to eat, feeling sick to stomach, diarrhea, needing to urinate, feeling of butterflies or bees in stomach:
Gastric juices and saliva production decreases because blood flow to the digestive system is shut down. Your body will eliminate anything currently in the digestive track in order to help you be a bit lighter on your feet when fleeing the scene. After all it more important to save your life then digest that hot dog and fries you had for lunch! Haha! Therefore, these are perfectly normal healthy symptoms!
6) Confusion, feeling of not being in reality, unable to think, feeling lightheaded, derealization, unable to concentrate:
Again the blood flow is all about the muscles at this point and will take away from other areas that do nothing to help you run or fight. This temporary blood rush to muscles will decrease flow to the brain a bit. When you are under attack...you definitely do not need to think...you just need to survive...bloods not so important in our grey matter at this time. Therefore these are perfectly normal healthy symptoms!
7) Shakiness, weakness, jelly legs:
This is just a reaction of adrenaline sitting in your cells not being used up by running or fighting. Get up, walk around, go out for a run, clean the house, hop, dance the funky chicken...use up the adrenaline and those sensations will go away! Again, these are perfectly normal healthy symptoms!
8) Fatigue, tiredness, exhaustion, depression:
Well after experiencing all of the above your body has to have a break!!! These symptoms are there to allow your body a much needed rest!!!
Does this make sense as to why you feel these awful feelings...do you now understand why these feelings really are not that awful? They are there...and only there, to HELP you!!! Granted they don't feel the greatest when you don't know what they are but they really are your friend...believe me, the sympathetic nervous system does not want to turn on.....it gives you those early "warning system" feelings so that it doesn't have to. Therefore, all you need to do now is to learn how to turn this fight or flight system off before it goes into panic.
Here is the question that we have all been waiting for....
So...how do we turn the sympathetic nervous system off???
Answer:
By noticing your "Warning System" and turning on the Parasympathetic Nervous System. OK, this may sound totally easy but the way to turn this parasympathetic system on is by:
1) Taking some slow deep breaths.
2) Talking compassionately, positively and logically to yourself.
3) THATS IT!!!!
(***see note below)
Let's walk through an example of an panic attack/anxiety attack. The first example is NOT using the warning system. The second example is using the warning system. Which one works out better?
PANIC ATTACK EXAMPLE:
Let's say, you have to drive into the city for an appointment. The morning of, as you are getting ready to leave, you start to think....oh boy, I have to drive all the way downtown, with all of that crazy traffic and congestion. I hate driving in those conditions.
(Sympathetic nervous system is engaged. Adrenaline is released. Heart starts to beat faster)
You put on your coat and grab your keys and think....oh no, what if I get in a traffic jam. What if I begin to not feel well.
(More adrenaline released. Heart begins to beat a lot faster, you also begin to sweat a bit)
You now walk to the car and slip into the seat. While adjusting the mirror you start to think....what if I really get sick while driving and loose control of the car, what if I get in an accident.
(More adrenaline. Heart is going a mile a minute, your arms and legs feel weak, it feels like you may not be getting enough air into your lungs)
Now you are thinking...oh no...am I having a heart attack. What is wrong with me. I can't catch my breath.
(The effect of the adrenaline are now being felt. You are light headed, feeling a little dizzy, you are having a hard time focusing)
You decide to get out of the car and go back in the house to lay down. You make it to your bed.
(Now your heart rate is slower but you are so scared about what just happened. You now lay there exhausted, scared and depressed. On top of that....you are now afraid to go back into the car!!!....(this is a "Trigger" now, we will talk about this next weeks))
HERE IS HOW TO STOP THE PANIC ATTACK HABIT USING YOUR... "WARNING SYSTEM"
SAME EXAMPLE:
Let's say, you have to drive into the city for an appointment. The morning of, as you are getting ready to leave, you start to think....oh boy, I have to drive all the way downtown, with all of that crazy traffic and congestion. I hate driving in those conditions.
(Sympathetic nervous system is engaged. Heart begins to beat faster)
Whoa what was that?....why is my heart beating faster? When my heart is beating faster then usual this is my "Warning System"
(You now have a choice....either choose to ignore your warning system and end up like above in a full fledge panic attack OR begin to activate that parasympathetic system that everyone of us has access to)
Alright, my "Warning System" has been activated! OK....what do I need to do?...oh yeah, there were two steps....step 1...take some slow deep breaths. In through my nose counting up to five. One, two, three, four five. Now out through pursed lips. Five, four, three, two, one. I think I will do this a few more times. In...one, two, three, four, five. Out....five, four, three, two, one. In....one, two, three, four, five. Out...five, four, three, two, one.
(Heart rate slows a bit because of slow deep breathing)
Alright, I did some slow breaths, now step 2....I need to talk compassionately and logically to myself. OK...I have to drive into the city and yes, there may be some traffic...so.....maybe I can listen to that book on tape while I drive today, or turn on my favorite radio talk show. I could stop by the coffee shop and grab a decaf mocha coffee or I could even make a green tea here at home to go.
(Breathing is back to normal)
You put on your coat and grab your keys....oh no, what if I get sick while driving?
(Heart rate picks up again)
There's my warning system again. Take some more slow deep breaths and talk compassionately. OK....I have made this a habit to be scared when I drive. I won't get sick....that's just a scary thought and those feelings were my sympathetic nervous system wanting to turn on. It was just a little adrenaline and adrenaline can never hurt me. Nothing to worry about. I can change this habit by talking compassionately, positively and logically to myself. You are going to be OK.....you have driven downtown before and you can do it again and again. You are going to give yourself some time to overcome this negative thought habit. It took you a long time to develop this fear it will take a little bit of time till it no longer bothers you. It will go away if I keep facing it and retrain my brain to a more positive outlook on driving.
(Heart rate returns to normal)
You now walk to the car and slip into the seat. While adjusting the mirror you start to think....I can do this. I just have to keep an eye out for my warning system and if it turns on then activate my parasympathetic system. Take a few breaths and talk logically and compassionately to myself.....I CAN DO THIS!
(Calm, Still have all of your energy, and a bit more confidence)
You drive to get your hot beverage for your ride into the city!
HOMEWORK
1) Watch for your "Warning System"
2) If it is activated......Turn on your Parasympathetic Nervous System
a) Take Slow Deep Breaths. (***see note below)
b) Talk Compassionately, Positively, and Logically
3) Still keep it slow
4) Purchase or find a little notebook that you can carry with you at all times. We will need it starting next week.
Let me know during the week of you have any examples of your warning system turning on and how you manage working through it. Remember you are just starting on this practice...don't expect perfect. It will get easier and easier every time you use it though. We have a lot more to learn over the coming weeks that will help also.
Remember panic attacks did not happen over night. They may have seemed like they did but it took time to create those negative thoughts that scare you. It will take some practice to change those thoughts. We will work next week on those thoughts exclusively.
Until then....
My best to you!
***Note
(from the above homework assignment)
If you are anything like me...my panic attacks, in the beginning, before I really understood what the were...were so fast that step one...the slow deep breaths needed a little booster shot..so to say. Remember...the breaths are the true key here because they are the ultimate reason why your parasympathetic nervous system turns on. This is science...it's a fact....but if you are really in a state where you have gone a bit past your initial warning system and you are heading into panic (which is OK....your new at changing this...right?...as long as you keep working on this...you will eventually get this)....then here is what to do.....
First...definitely do your slow deep breaths...this is the key. While you are doing the slow deep breaths...and talking compassionately to yourself....start adding distraction. I have found the best way to do this is by using your senses. First off senses are always with you...they are free...haha...and they work wonders for helping you to stop the negative thoughts that automatically started the panic to begin with.
You can go in any order you want but go through every sense you have...there are 5 of them...so take your time and really pay attention to each of them. To ahead and try this out right now by asking yourself the below questions....
1) What do I feel right now?
Really allow your fingers to tell you exactly what they are feeling, cold, hot, bumpy, rough, smooth, soft...explore what ever is around you. Close your eyes if this will help you focus....(unless you are driving a car or operating heavy machinery). Enjoy the sensation!
2) What do I hear?
Is it loud, quite, do I hear birds, airplanes, cars, music, talking,...try to hear sounds that are further and further away. Close your eyes and see of you can hear anything else....(again, as long as you are not driving a car or operating any heavy machinery...haha!)
3)What do I smell?
Is it sweet, stinky, pleasant...etc. Does it make you hungry...is the smell familiar, unusual?
4) What do I taste?
Is there something nearby that you can put in your mouth? Is there something you ate recently that you can still savor?
5) What do I see?
Notice what is in front of you...colors, shapes, sizes, beauty, brightness, textures. Look further and further away...what is the furthest thing you can focus on.
Distraction is a powerful tool. Some folks carry worry stones, or prayer cards, or pictures. I know when I was overcoming my fear of driving...I would always have a bottle of water with one of those pop-up squirt tops...the kind they sell at convenience stores. Anyways, if my warning system went off, while I was driving...I would pick up my water bottle and start taking slow sips on the bottle. Not only would this slow my breath but it was a great way to engage my senses. The coolness of the bottle in my hand (touch)...the way the bottle was shaped (see)...the water in my mouth (taste)...the sound the bottle would make as I sipped (hear)...well, there isn't much to smell with water...but, you get my point!
Anyways....give those senses a whirl. Also use them when you are calm for practice. Try deep slow breathing while you are enjoying your senses. I think you will be amazed on what you don't pay attention to....until you begin to pay attention!!!!
As always...my best to you!
So I do these things, but the panic keeps on coming, I say to myself "This is just my warning system, I'm not doing anything, just sitting here, it's just a feeling" but bam it keeps on coming until it's too much for me and then I lose it.
I'm just frustrated that these attacks, plus some other problems I have like night terrors, are really lowering my quality of life for so long, and I'm trying so hard to lessen them but I'm not even making a dent. Actually it seems no matter what I do they get worse.
OK...let's go over some of your posts
Brittany...bridges are a very common anxiety fear. Curious....do you just get a dose of purely your warning system going off...or....do you get "scary thoughts"? By scary thoughts I mean...driving off the bridge...crashing your car into someone else...stuff like that? We will be having an entire week devoted to "scary thoughts" which by the way is yet another common characteristic of anxiety and once you learn about them...they are not as scary anymore. Let me know if this is the case because some folks with "scary thoughts" become sooooo scared by these thoughts and I don't want you to have to wait until Week 9 to understand them. By the way....bravo, for facing that fear everyday. You basically have not learned that many tools yet but you are still facing that fear.....this is huge!!! Keep it up!
Nuwara...thank you for saying that I explain things in a simple way.....that was my goal because so much information out there is so complicated and it really doesn't have to be.
You asked why your stomach feels all jittery when your sympathetic warning system...aka...warning system goes off. This is a biggie for me also. Some people refer to the sensation as butterflies, bees,...I do think jittery kind of sums it up. Anyways, what is happening is that once your brain has responded to the danger signal....it releases adrenaline. Your body...so it thinks...is heading into battle or running for your life...right? Well...it does not need what ever is in your stomach at the moment weighing you down. We are not going to be able to run very well with Taco Bell, Dairy Queen, McDonald's or even your Wheaties filling up your stomach. Therefore, your wonderful body begins to shut down your digestive system and begins eliminating anything left in it. This is why a feeling of needing to urinate or for some experiencing diarrhea or vomiting is just part of this wonderful system that helps us to survive what ever dander is out there.....lovely, right?
Here's the thing....we can't stop this wonderful system that we have built into us all.....BUT....we can stop the thoughts that start it in the first place. That is what we are going to be working on together for the next 10 Weeks. By the way....yes Asthma medicine....ugh....it does cause the jitters. I want you to notice something though. The exact same effect is happening to your body as when your warning system goes off....yet....it doesn't scare you as much because you know what is causing it. Interesting...right? You will begin to understand what is causing all of your negative thoughts over time...we will keep working on it.....it's a journey not a race.
By the way....bravo to you too! Looking to do public speaking to face a fear.....another biggie. You guys are doing great....even if you feel it didn't get the results you hoped for. We will work on this!!!
Sheilastjohn and
Bealon....we will be learning about a thing called Triggers on Monday that I believe will be very helpful understanding why your symptoms seem to appear out of the blue. Also.....this is extremely common. Again your body is working perfectly normally....we just need to work on the thoughts that keep it going.
Also I think doing the weeks together like this will be very helpful to everyone so that you can see what works and what doesn't through the eyes of others who are walking in the same shoes as yourself. We all are the same as far as anxiety goes. It's a primitive function...( turning on the sympathetic nervous system)....we all have to learn how to turn it off the exact same way.
I am so happy that you are all learning how to do this in such a supportive envirement. Thank you for sharing your experiences and successes....you never know who you may help experiencing the exact same situation!!!! Thank you again for sharing!!!!!
My best to you all!!!!
I think it is when we recognize that anxiety has symptoms that mimic catastrophic illnesses, but are in no way the mimicked ones that we are able to move forward.
I see a ton of threads here asking others if they have the same symptoms. When others confirm they experience the same symptoms, I feel the ball is dropped by no fault of anyone.....it just is. However, this thread and assistance gives the keys to their symptoms of ANXIETY. It is always good to check with a doctor about concerning symptoms, but once they are eliminated by the doctor......know that they are just symptoms of anxiety and start dealing with them for the anxiety symptoms they are......Start the deep breathing method and work on distracting yourself. Take inventory of your surroundings and say out loud to yourself..."I am not in any danger!" Continue deep breathing and work hard on changing your thoughts.
I found that to distract myself.....I pop a few gum balls and start chewing (I get head and neck pressure and this automatically brings me back from the brink). I start concentrating on the taste going on in my mouth and it also relieves the stress :)
That distraction is just what I need to get my mind off the symptoms. Then I pop in a Pharrel Williams CD (lot's of great positive and jamming songs). I crank up the CD's if I'm driving and dance around if I'm at home :)
Gotta get those positive vibes moving!!!!
Carry on.....great thread and look forward to tomorrow's session :)
I am going out to buy some gum balls first thing in the morning ....I love that idea!!! Also I love your positive spirit!!!
Ahhhhh.....and you advise about wallowing in negative symptoms and thoughts is spot on!!! One can not live a positive life if focusing on the negative....right? Week Three will show us how to make these changes!
Thanks!!!
Check out week three that is currently posted. It completely goes over this exact question about not having a negative thought before having your warning system turning on. This is called a trigger thought.
Check out Week Three and post there if you still need assistance.
Thanks for the great question!!!
So I did have an experience with calming myself down when I felt my warning system go off. I was in bed, trying to fall asleep, which is a common anxiety-filled time for me and for a while I was getting practically no sleep at all. I'd get in bed and as I was drifting off to sleep I'd wake up in a panic thinking that If i fell asleep my heart would stop beating and I'd die, so that kept me up all night.
Anyway! Back to the other night. I felt my warning system start to go off and what worked best for me was using my senses. I start touching my comforter and noting the texture of the flower pattern. I noted hearing my boyfriend breathing next to me. I noted the smell of fabric softener drifting in from my laundry room. By the time I got that far, I was coming back down already. It was magnificent. And soon I was asleep and I managed to sleep through the night.
Another thing that really helps me is how to explained the body's warning system as being a normal reaction. I was one of those who thought my body was malfunctioning when a panic attack hit. When I read your explanation of why and how my body is in fact doing exactly what it is supposed to do, it was like a slap in the face with logic! So I thank you a million times over for that!
Anyway, I'm going to get on to week 3 now. This is awesome! :D
Great idea using your senses! The "Super 5" to the rescue!!!
My best to you....I see you on Week Three!
Welcome!
Alas, after the extra views, I didn't get the outcome I expected. It appears that an area I have calcification needs to have a needle biopsy in order to be sure it isn't anything. She assured me that most of the time it isn't anything but they have to do the needle biopsy just to be sure. I am deathly afraid of needles. I burst into tears when the doctor told me about having to schedule a needle biopsy. I am having it done Wednesday morning and will get the results on Friday. I broke down and took 1/2 a Xanax when I got home yesterday but haven't had any since. I had managed to not take anything up to that point so was disappointed that I really needed to take it when I got home to get my bearings back. I had cried all the way home and my husband has been very supportive through this.
I've actually been doing pretty good using what I learned in week 1 and week 2 of Adventure Guide's lessons. Any anxiety pretty much feels like what a normal person going through this would have. I had some anxiety when I first woke up this morning so I again started the breathing and positive self talk. I knew my symptoms were from the adrenalin so I got on my recombinant bike and exercised for 15 minutes. I did that yesterday afternoon when I got home too. It really helped. I am not an exercise person and hadn't been exercising much although I really need to be doing that. But I will start incorporating that more now that I see how it helps.
Still doing pretty good this evening. Sigh...Hoping Wednesday comes and goes quickly though. Trying not to focus on the procedure because it triggers my "trapped" feeling from my abuse as a child. I'll be on a table and unable to move for 30 to 40 minutes while the procedure is being done.
Thanks you Adventure Guide for so freely sharing your experience, strength and hope with all of us! Linda
I remember when my mom was alive and I was feeling scared, worried or sad about something that was happening in my life....she would always tell me to...."Just cry and let it all out". Just hearing her say those words allowed me to cry like a baby. I would always feel so much better after I did so. I am so glad that you allow yourself to cry....somehow it's cleansing. Also, how wonderful to have a supportive husband. I do have to say you are doing amazing with your positivity through this....keep it up....it will help 100%.
I love the fact that you have gotten back on the saddle...so to say...and exercising during this stressful time. I keep sending you ahead in the weeks but due to what you are experiencing I think it will help.....so...find Week Four and go over the exercise post. It basically goes over the fact that doing what you are doing is brilliant and will help to release much needed endorphins that will give you the extra boost needed until you have this whole situation behind you.
Here is a giant (((((hug)))))!
I will continue to keep you in my thoughts and in my prayers.
Thank you for sharing....you are an inspiration for others going through life's rough spots!
I agree about the crying making one feel better. I used to never cry unless I saw something on TV about an animal being injured. I had frozen feelings from my childhood. I really worked on myself in the 90's to be able to feel all feelings and to express them. So when I cry today it is a good thing.
Thanks again for your sharing.
I can totally relate to your first example of the car becoming a trigger once you've given yourself a panic attack [in your example the fear of
having to drive downtown. ]. One of the most painful experiences of my life was a dental implant on a large molar. I could literally feel the
vibration and pain down into my jaw bone. After the implant , there are
several follow up visits over the next 6 months to be sure everything is healing OK. All they do is take and X-Ray and look at the tooth..absolutely nothing painful.I had a panic attack driving to the appointment and had to take an Ativan [which I only do 2 or 3 times a year}. Another time I had a panic attack while sitting in the chair waiting for the doc. I made up an excuse to leave and went to sit in the Parking lot for the ER at my local hospital to calm down. Both of these episodes occurred on follow up visits when I knew nothing painful was going to happen , but just having to go back to the oral surgeon's office caused this. I have had 2 stents put in my coronary arteries and 3 shoulder surgeries which only gave me mild [normal] anxiety, but nothing has triggered my panic like these follow up visits to the oral surgeon which I logically knew would be painless.
There is a way to make this stop...
The only way to overcome this situation...is by making a NEW neural connection by basically telling and retelling your brain that you understand why it is reacting this way and then telling it that the danger no longer exists. Writing down these negative to positive thoughts on paper will help in the beginning when making these new nueron connections. After a while you will be able to do this immediately without the need of paper and pen.
See you will have then made a new pathway in your brain to process the situation. Your brain will no longer buy into the fact that the situation is dangerous....it will now have the story correct and respond approprietly and logically. This is brain plasticity....taking a negative and making it a positive....simple yet powerful!
Use this for ANY area of your life which has rough spots and you will be one step closer to success at what ever you are trying to accomplish.
You have handled many surgeries with very positive and logical results. You'll get there with this one too once you work on it a bit.
Thank you for sharing and I am so happy that you understand why your body is reacting the way it is. Understanding is the first step to overcoming issues with anxiety. After that....it's learning what to do to make it stop.....then from there on out.....it's just practice!
My best to you!