Take a moment to reflect on the fact that your mum knows her husband is buried in the cemetery and that it is her home.

Anxiety, fear.

Do Not let the anxiety and fear of 'hate' be your guide. Instead, keep your focus short, simple, and sweet.

You can not change how others feel, what they say, do, and how they react. All you can do is change the way you think, act, say, do, and react.

Instead of seeing it as them trying to hound you out, see it more as protection, taking care to keep others away. Make it positive. Smile, wave, and be kind.

Stop. Pause. Breathe.

Hello Sherlock. Welcome to DS. Sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

Haters will hate. That is far beyond your control. Their hatred reflects on them far more accurately than it reflects on the object of their hatred. Still. . . It is, indeed, hard to relax in the hate spray. Hatred sure does make people stupid and cruel.

Steadying support while you ride out the changes, Sherlock. Welcome aboard. Vent freely. Vent often.

Listening. . .

Thanks, I'm currently inside the house and there are four people gathering outside, they don't do much physically, a bit of egg throwing, graffiti on the car, tyres deflated, they are careful to avoid the police who are encouraging to me but if they just gather outside then they are not breaking the law. I spent time in jail, deservedly so although I was guilty I've still plenty of questions as to what I did and why, I'm trying to get help from counsellors, these want me out and homeless which would make me more vulnerable but also if they believe I'm dangerous then harder for the police to track me, so I'm not sure their point. When anything happens to mum I fully expect and hope to move but until then I'm stuck between mum and those who hate me.

My favorite thing about haters is that they get bored easily. There is no shortage of things to hate in this world and they typically move on with comparative ease.

Moving hasn't been much of a solution in my personal experience. Haters are everywhere and granting them power over my life only compromises my self-esteem.

Leaning on somebody else's strength until I find my own has proven a much better solution in my personal herstory. Your mum sounds like a good candidate for that job, for starters. Keep reaching out and you may find there are even more angels than haters.

If they are outside your house could you install a CCTV camera and put up some signs to say that everything outside your property is being recorded. This may deter them.

Loving kindness

Janus