I always thoughts anxiety was negative thinking driving really fast on the highway... but I could be wrong. Positive thoughts driving fast on the highway create excitement! I wonder once the anxiety starts to get overwhelming, I can just say, wow you are so excited and my brain might believe me? I am going to try it :)

Hi Jpoo,
I do believe negative thoughts bring on anxiety more so than positive. That makes sense. Replacing the negative thoughts with positive ones has relieved my anxiety alot. Also living in the present moment has helped me. It all starts in the mind and if you think positive you will get better results. So that's what I'm aiming for. Thinking positive and staying present. When I do feel anxious, I stop,pause and take a deep breath. Deep breathing really has helped me out alot.
Good luck. I hope it helps you too.
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Hi CaliforniaItalianlover,

You mentioned changing your thinking?
Are you using DBT or CBT modalities or something else to achieve this change?

Thoughts creap in even just when I wake that no one knows I’m here. No one cares I’m here. If I weren’t here or anywhere it wouldn’t matter. It would take at least weeks for anyone to even know and even then they wouldn’t be upset. They would just be sad, sad for themselves, not actually morning me or my move or disappearance just sad that they found out. It would be an inconvenience. Not a tragedy. I don’t care that they would be inconvenienced, I care that don’t matter. I wish I mattered to someone. What’s the point in mattering to yourself???

Hi Lycoris,
I'm actually not using anything other than just rethinking my thoughts and changing the way I think about them. When a negative thought pops in my mind I replace it with a positive one. I believe it's mind over matter. It seems to be helping alot with my anxiety. I also do yoga and deep breathing and that seems to keep me grounded and focused. Living in the present also is a plus.
CBT I hear is also good. I do alittle of that too. I have a friend that's a therapist. Hope all is well.

Hi Lycoris,
You do matter. Don't think or say that. People care. All of us here on DS are very supportive to each other. So if you need to talk were here to listen and give you advice. Life matters. Go out and enjoy it!!!!
You take good care.
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Negative! Usually spirals into death and my breathing will stop. It's exhausting.

Hi summerbabe88,
So yours are negative. That's scary about death and your breathing stopping. When your breathing gets like that stop pause and take some deep breaths. See if that helps. Deep breathing helps calm you down so you won't feel so exhausted. Good luck and I hope it helps. Thank you for your comment.

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Anxiety is a protective mechanism for me. I strongly believe it helps me avoid mistakes in everyday life. I’m trying to think of all the scenarios to prevent bad things from happening. So I’m essentially going through a checklist otherwise the thoughts are inherently negative worried that I made a mistake and what the consequences will be. Relationships are higher drivers of anxiety for me because people are unpredictable and I do not trust people.

Hi Adriasm,
I think everyone worries about making mistakes. And we all do make mistakes if we didn't we would all be perfect. And that's just not reality
I agree with people you just don't know who to trust and who to believe. They are unpredictable. I try to stay around positive people and enjoy there company. I have alot of good people that are there for me if I need them. I am very blessed to have them in my life.
I can trust them and count on them. There always there if I need them. Maybe meeting new people would help you trust again. It's just meeting the right people. Good luck. And thanks for your comment.

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