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Stuck.

quietchick
quietchick

I cant seem to just let myself be happy. It's always on to the next thing. I spent the last two years so focused on making it to graduation , that i neglected everthing else in my life. I just graduated, entered a job in my field, and got engaged to my boyfriend of 9 years. Why am i so sad and lonely all of the time lately? My one close friend in this area has changed into a complete flake. How can i really blame her when i feel like i just took a two year hiatus on our friendship to focus on school. I have been avoiding leaving my house on days off, getting more and more socially awkward, and not putting as much effort into caring for my home and my relationship. I just feel stuck in this awful rut. Any confidence i had, just gone. 

arfie
arfie
Hello Quiet Chick. Welcome to DS.

Your post gave me flashbacks to the portion of my psychotherapy which dealt with my continual flights into the future. My synopsis of that psychotherapy dealt with running from my past so hard that I kept running right past today into my goals and hopes for the future. The demons I was running from were mean enough to keep me running past those goals and hopes, as well. I still haven't graduated college. I was in my 50's for my last attempt and. . . Sigh. . . The School of Hard Knocks remains my one true Alma Mater.

I did better on the goal of letting myself be happy, though. "Gratitude Lists" are my primary tool for finding the courage to smile, whatever the chaos swirling around me.
penpen
penpen
I think you should talk to your healthcare provider about these symptoms you are having. You sound like you are depressed. Just don’t let it keep continuing before talking with someone about it. You can try techniques to see if you can pull yourself out of the rut like exercise and meditation and as arfie said, a gratitude list. But if you find yourself not feeling any better, talk to your Dr. they can screen you for depression and possibly start you on anti depressant medication. I wish you all the best and congratulations on your graduation and engagement!
quietchick
quietchick
Thanks for the replies. I would like to try to avoid medication, if possible. I do not have a primary care physician but I should find one anyway. I think exercise might benefit me, as I've been gaining weight as things have gotten worse. I will also try the gratitude list.
Carolin57
Carolin57
Hello there. Yes exercise releases endorphines in the brain which make you feel good. But by exercise you need not go to extreems, a good walk somewhere in some clement weather will work wonders anyways I hope you feel a tad better soon
eli_mom
eli_mom
Hello, Welcome to the forum!
Exercise works especially when you walk outdoors with sunlight. Sunlight is good for uplifting someone’s mood. You can also check with your doctor to know the best treatment of the symptoms you are having.

Thank you for sharing. I pray that you will feel better soon. Keep us posted.
Congratulations on your graduation and your engagement. God bless.
quietchick
quietchick
Thank you eli_mom and Carolin57, for the kind advice.
LadyZen
LadyZen
I thought it was interesting that you said, "Why am i so sad and lonely all of the time lately?" Maybe you can talk to a therapist. They're trained in helping you figure out this answer because often times the answer is deep within us but we, along with friends and family, are not equipped to help. I saw my first therapist in my twenties for 1 year and it was life changing. I had spent my twenties is the deepest and darkest depression and I had hid it from everyone even myself. I was a high functioning depressive so on the outside I was successful, but on the inside I was shattered and broken.
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