Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Sduenas
Sduenas

Hi Everyone. This is my first post ever! I suffer from general anxiety disorder and have for about 10 years. Mine is usually caused by stress and being overwhelmed. i always take on too much stuff and never say no to anyone. Does anyone else do this too? how do you deal with it? I eventually would love to not take medication for it but after hospitalizations and seeing my psychiatrist, its the best way for me to be the mom i can be for my kids.

bridgie101
bridgie101
For me I have an intense sense of responsibility, that is very destructive to me. I feel responsible for everyone and everything. I have to learn to let go. I have to back off. I have to say no. Start with the little things. Say not to some small thing. Then work your way up. :)
rskb3
rskb3
Yes, I am a people pleaser and don't like to let anyone down but for my mental health I am learning to say no. I just keep asking myself is this what is best for me? If the answer is no, then I won't do it.
victor
victor
It is not being self-centered or selfish to say "No" to others sometimes because you cannot help others unless you are doing OK. I suffer the same thing and some people are able to "tune in" and take advantage of your goodness. Only take on what is comfortable. Yourself and your children come first.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Here's a really fast way to get your "no" to be natural. Do it in front of the mirror, and add something to do for yourself. Even if it's taking the time to brush/comb your hair, make it count for you. The first step for me in learning to say "no" was getting used to saying it. I keep a journal to help me get past the usual blocks of too much, and with a little help from ideas and tips, we've gotten the "no" to where it's not needed as much. When you have children, you have to choose what works best for you in the surrounding situation. Best wishes, and welcome to this wonderful group!
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