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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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strange ability to diagnose problems

Bobby5000
Bobby5000

We have a family member who had serious anxiety and related problems. When we tried to discuss solutions she would deny, deflect and defend. Another one blames everything on the political party he doesn't like. 



In contrast my wife who has serious problems seems to be able to intelligently analyze her situation identify problems and suggest solutions
but I can's figure out why she doesn't do it.  Imagine 2 kids in math class, one says he doesn't understand alegbra and got a 40 on the test, another got the same grade but cogently explains how to solve an equation but says she doesn't know why she didn't just do that on the test.  There are people who have social anxiety and one can see some challenges.  In contrast, my wife who now developed that when placed in a situation handles people beautifully observes social context, smiles appropriately,  and handles things well.  When I ask when don't you just do what you can and spend less time thinking and worrying, she says either I should do that or I don't know.       

Community LeaderMid
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I have to say, again, that she's doing what works for her.
Bobby5000
Bobby5000
Notwithstanding that she consistently says what happened to me tells people how miserable she is says she ruined her life and in cogent moments says she hopes to get well and do the things she used to do.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
And ,,, so ,,, words ,,, still ... not ... doing . You are making the best of what you can,
arfie
arfie
no doubt about it. advice is much easier to give than to follow.

and you? how are your own anxiety levels doing with all this?
rmb
rmb
Just because someone is aware of something or can articulate something, doesn’t mean they have the tools or desire or connections or whatever it is, to execute it. If it were that easy to just do what we know we “should” do all the time, hell, no one would be overweight, smoke, abuse alcohol, cheat on their spouses, bite their nails, etc etc. People are complex.

Mental health issues are COMPLEX.
Bobby5000
Bobby5000
All true rmb and I'm aware of the challenges, just here to try to make some progress on these complex and challenging issues.

My anxiety can be high and am checking on personal therapy and marriage counseling. On a selfish level I cannot just go out as I used to and liked to hover around. Now going out of my backyard to exercise if my wife does not see me she gets overwhelming anxiety asking where were you.
arfie
arfie
for my own, strictly personal support nickel, managing my own anxiety levels is critical in providing effective support. when my own anxiety is out of control, the quality of support i am capable of giving is directly affected.

self-care is not selfish.
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