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Separation anxiety from spouse

shannon1989
shannon1989

i feel like it is completely ridiculous, but I think I have severe separation anxiety from my husband. I have anxiety and depression and he is very supportive and helpful. A few years ago we moved from my hometown and my family 4 hours away and while I have some friends here, he is my best friend and my rock. But he has a job that requires him to travel sometimes including flying (which I've only done once and I'm terrified of).


I've been very anxious and depressed lately since losing my job and trying to get a new one. Then today my husband flew out of state for the day and I completely lost it. I tell myself the days before that it'll be fine but then as soon as he boards and is in the air I have a severe anxiety attack. Tried to watch tv, listen to music, prepare for an interview, nothing helped. It got so bad that I was in the shower trying not to puke or faint. I took .5mg Xanax and felt no better. It's like if he is far away or out of contact I lose all control. When my panic attacks get that bad I feel like they will never end and i have suicidal thoughts. I know I will never act on them but I get down in that hole and feel like I'll never get out. I had basically a full blown anxiety attack for the entire day that he was gone. I had to stay on the phone with everyone I know to stay calm and distracted. 


Does anyone else experience this kind of separation anxiety? I know it's ridiculous and I should feel very blessed that I have someone I care about this much but I know it's not right to depend so completely on someone. 

RossHomes
RossHomes
Have you tried having interests outside of your husband , like hobbies or friends , etc ? Its not good to be centered around one person . I did it ...not good or healthy . Good luck and hope you feel better soon ..
shannon1989
shannon1989
Thank you amnicole, I do have 2 cats and 2 dogs that are so amazingly therapeutic for me. They are just as good as some of the medications I think. I do have a fear of being away from home so flying and road trips give me anxiety, then knowing I'm alone and he's away just makes it worse. I do need to work on distractions or things to do when he's away to keep my mind off it. Thank you
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Find activity that gives you focus. Best wishes.
Mayaantoniette
Mayaantoniette
I feel this way too with my husband. He is gone ten hours a day every day for work and I am home with the kids. I always feel anxious and stressed counting down the minutes until he walks in the door. I'm sure everyone gets excited when their spouse comes home, but my anxiety definitely sky rockets when he is gone. If you're ever home and want to chat please feel free to message me :D
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