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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Self afflicted anxiety?

ClutterBrain
ClutterBrain

Hello everyone I’m new to this group. I didn’t know I had anxiety until I broke up with my long term boyfriend of almost 11 years. It’s been seven months now. I had my first anxiety attack the first week after I came from and night out with friends and I was drinking threw up all over myself and went to take a shower and it began. Next time was when I did all I could to get him back and he basically was like I can’t come back where I’m not happy. I had an attack as wanted to end it all but lucky I started praying and listening to music and calmed down. And the most recent one was when he told me that he fucked up and got his girlfriend pregnant. Like I felt so betrayed and like this whole situation has busted moved so fast for me I can’t adapt. Like within a month of leaving he moved in with her and introduced the kids to her. Couple of months after he talks about moving into a place with her so he have the kids more because right now they are staying at her aunts house. And she pregnant like it’s crazy man. But mind you I have allowed him to still use me because I still talk with him here and there, if he needs to borrow money I lend it to him. But before I did it with hopes of him coming back now it’s like why do you do it and not ask your girl now baby mama? Maybe I cause my own anxiety but I try not to. 

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It is difficult to separate all the different issues you can make decisions about when you have them all in a single paragraph.
Anxiety is natural, and to make it work for you, you manage the information you are working with.
Make a single choice to put your well-being first and use that in making your decisions.
Best wishes.
Welcome to this group!
asthmasucks
asthmasucks
you were blindsided so shock and anxiety is natural ..its not self inflicted...your in adrenal shock ..the world as you know it is not the same ..there is fear and shock that goes with that! Now drinking , take it from me only makes anxiety alot worse . I drank my panic attack into the er , and needed weeks of anxiety meds to get off so trust me ,drinking under stress is the enemy..journal and meditate , get your hair done and start dating casually online at first ...just change your thought pattern. He went from one relationship to the next , he is emotionally messed up and not really ready..so forget him and focus on you .do not lend him money, you need your money! put some heels on , have a girls night out and thats that! dont worry about him while he worries over someone else..get in your power..
ClutterBrain
ClutterBrain
Yeah I feel if remove myself from that situation I will be able to prevent a lot because I think my attacks are brought in fear of the unknown and blame. Just crazy how you don’t know you have these problems until something triggers it. But yes mediation has really helped me overall.
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