Praying for good results

Take a deep breath. Stop. Pause. Breathe. Repeat until calm.

Do this every single time the thought comes up.

That way, you can distract the usual pattern of thought with this. You've done everything you can think of to help. Waiting for results is something you are not changing, so change how you think about it.

Plan something special for the moments afterwards. No matter what the results are, you will have them in hand.

Take time to relax, and reduce the stress naturally.

Keeping a good thought for you and your wife.

I am so glad you have each other and your beautiful love to count on. This situation may be terrible, but you are facing it with the best thing ever. Focus on your happy experiences together and what you both love about each other.

Sending good wishes and thoughts your way!

Even if it is as you fear, I still hope for you to have the strength to work through your feelings and focus on enjoying whatever time you have.

My heart also breaks for you - sometimes we forget how fragile life can be, and people like you make us realize that our problems are so small in the scheme of things.

Really hope you can get your spirits up regardless of the results, you should try to use this time to appreciate and love your wife. x

I know how hard it is. I was recently diagnosed with cancer. I think it is harder on the loved ones than the person who has it. Focus on what you can do going forward to help her and help yourself. She's counting on you so take good care of yourself. Waiting for test results are the worst. Once you get them you can figure out what you can do for best possible outcome. My heart is with you.

Thanks to everyone for the great feedback. There are great nuggets in all your responses.

that's super scary stuff, st lake. i would be more worried if you felt nothing.

steadying support while you ride the tsunami sized wave. i'm glad you felt safe to reach out for support here. prayers in progress. . .

breathing with you. . .

Prayers for you and your wife.

Sending you guys lots of support & many prayers
Gentlest of hugs <3

Cancer is very scary. But stop and tank a moment and breath. There is no reason to beat yourself up. This won't help the situation. Your wife needs you more then every now. If she can see how worried you are it won't help in her journey to remission. This has to be taken day by day, hour after hour, minute after minute. I'm praying for great results. Keep your head up, your chin up, and stay strong.

Scott

I try very hard to conceal my anxiety and sadness from her. She doesn't need me leaning on her for support. When I feel real sad and cry, I do it out of her sight. Sometimes, I just get really scared and sad.

Thank you for all the good words and advice. It helps me to hear them and for me to write on DS.

I am so incredibly sorry you are going through this. I am praying for your and your wife tonight.

I know it’s hard, but try to distract yourself during the waiting period. Sounds easy I know than actually. But try taking a nice walk. Call up an old friend. Are there Cancer support groups where you are? Try to verbally express your anxiety.

For me personally, sometimes just talking about my anxiety, out in the open, tremendously helped.

Your wife is so lucky to have you as a life partner.

If you are on Facebook, there are videos by The 700 Club that have stories of miraculous healing through prayer. They are uplifting. Prayers for great results.

Thanks. I pray often and attend mass.