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kati612
kati612

I have had a friend breakup and I'm feeling extremely sad and I'm not quite sure how to handle it.


She been in my life for many years.  I feel that she is very manipulative and on a certain level is emotionally abusive.



Some things happened on recently and now she isn't talking to me after throwing some very hurtful comments at me.  She also is making it very obvious at work at something is up attempting to make me feel like the bad guy


How do I deal with the work environment and also her not being part of my life?

Community LeaderMid
Mid
First, in the work place, keep to facts. Stay focused on work.
Take a step back and consider that you can work with someone without friendship.
The feelings, write about them in a journal and process your usual thought pattern. Add to your toolkit positive images of this person to keep your conversations positive and polite.
You can not change how someone else acts. You can change how your reaction and response are, and you will find other's response will change when their usual response no longer fits.
Just because someone says something hurtful does NOT make it true. It is not your problem.
Again, take a step back and consider that you are working first.
Best wishes.
Diane22
Diane22
I had a friend like this in my life for years. She was abusive and jealous and had to make everything hard and bad for me. Its toxic. First off be thankful its over with. Trust me u do not need that type of person in your life. Second when it comes to work just focus on work. Like Mid said. Do not let her get to you. if you have to work with her just pretend she is any other co worker. She is trying to get a rise out of u. If you ignore it and keep moving along with life she will stop. Its tough, I know but u can do it.
kati612
kati612
Thank you for the input. I am taking it all in.
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