Anxiety Support Group

Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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PreMedWreck
PreMedWreck

Uncertainty. Frustration. Confusion. Sadness. Disappointment. I'm a senior in college, and my boyfriend recently broke up with me, out of the blue, and gave me a reason he couldn't even explain himself (every follow-up question I asked to try to understand, he responded with "I don't know".) We have been together since sophomore year, with a break in between, so we could both focus on ourselves (him reapplying to nursing school and me trying to get my anxiety under control.) We both agreed we were ready to get back together and give things another try, and he told me he was so confident in our ability to work through any problems we may run into. He bought us really expensive tickets to see a musical and made reservations at a really expensive restaurant along the lake. That was coming up in a week and a half. He's had the tickets for about a month, but the broke up with me over the weekend. I am so confused, and I don't understand what happened and how he went from saying all the super sweet things that he did to me to suddenly not wanting to be together. He said it is nothing I did, but of course with my anxiety I can't help but think it is something I did or said or it's something about who I am. I am a pre-med student and am applying to med schools right now and about a week ago he said whereever I end up going he would follow me and work while I am in school. Next week is also the last week of my undergraduate career, so I am overwhelmed with term papers and exams, which I now cannot focus on because I am so distracted and preoccupied trying to process everything. I just don't understand how everything changed so suddenly or even what changed, because he couldn't explain it. I worry I did something, and he doesn't want to tell me or it's something about who I am and I will never find anyone who will love me for whatever it is about me. I also can't help but think that I will not do well on my papers and exams because I can't focus and that if I don't do well enough that I won't get into med school and then if I don't get in, what will I do with my life and how will I support myself? 


I know this has been a lot, but I just needed to get it out because my mind has so many thoughts bouncing around inside of it, hence why this is probably all over the place. 

Community LeaderMid
Mid
Get hydrated. Get focused on your papers, exam, and find your calm to do this. This is your life. What the male did in breaking up with you is on him. Let that go, put it in a box, tape the box, and work on what you can for yourself. He's not a part of your moment right now, and it does not matter what happened-it happened, and it will not change what you do for yourself for your future and your career. Yes, it hurt. Put it aside, and do what makes you feel good for you, in the moment. I know it is hard, however, it's a choice that requires your full attention, and you deserve to put your self first! You are not alone!
PreMedWreck
PreMedWreck
Thank you..I have tried. I just can't help but worry, and not even about just the break up - about everything. I graduate in less than two weeks, and I worry about that I will not get into med school, that even though I have a full time job lined up as a pharmacy technician once I graduate I won't be able to support myself financially, that I should be farther ahead and have accomplished more at this point in my life, that because my best friends don't ask to hang out and wait for me to ask them that they don't enjoy hanging out with me, that when I see someone laughing and they look at me I feel as if they are laughing at me for some reason. I worry about everything. I worry about worrying. It consumes me, and I can't control it. I feel anxious all the time. I have been at my job for over 2 years and every time I go to work I still get jittery like I did on my first day.
colin10
colin10
Heyy I feel for you big time. Other than how I've been lately, my last 2 semesters of college was the most anxiety ridden period of my life. You're doing the right thing in seeking outside help. Have you seen a counselor/therapist before? My university had counselling services that helped a lot. Have you tried using crisis text lines? They have helped me a ton in situations when I need to get my nerves down quickly. Try texting 741741. Also, if youre diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety, see if your school has a disability center. Mine did and by using them I was granted the ability to get extensions on tests, papers, etc. if I was having anxiety attacks. Even if your school doesn't offer these things I would still suggest talking to your professors in office hours. Tell the what youre going through. I know it can be scary and it felt like I was going in and making excuses, but it was shocking how incredibly understanding ALL my professors were. Youre pre-med too, so your professors will probably have a better understanding of anxiety than say business profs.

If none of these things work for you then I really think the best thing you can do is try as hard as you can to study. Keep your face buried in a book or notes. It'll help you move on from the break up.

Let me know if this helps. I'm here for you.
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