Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
As always, I appreciate everyone's input. Short history, happily married 30+ years, wife happy until a house sale which she quickly regretted, had 7+ homes, hotels for past year and a half and recently moved into our new house but that has not significantly alleviated her anxiety, depressions, or periodic delusions.
1. Holiday dinner My wife usually has a holiday dinnere and in past she planned well. Yesterday, I wanted to get her moving and about 10:00, I said can you get dressed and let's get the supplies, please be ready in 10 minutes, asked reasonably nicely at least 8 times, I get mad and said can you get read and stop lying to me, explaining I have one day off (she's retired, I'm not) and don't want to spend 6 hours nagging her. Our son, his fiance and my wife's friend are sceduled to come. They call to confirm and I say I think we're now, but come a little later. I threaten to go the store on my own and she says no, had frantic anxiety anytime I leave. Finally, we leave at 4:30 go to Wegman's and the dinner is reasonably good.
How do I get her moving?
2. Ketamine Family members are suggesting this.
3. Handling delusions She had a fungus in her mouth. The doctor recommended a special mouthwash and later a bill, whcih she took but not reliably (say 4 or 5 instead of 7 days). There is a psychiatric issue, but no one suggests the fungus has somehow infliltrated her brain but she keeps saying that. How should I respond?
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I did the dumbest thing today. I charged my earbuds, unplugged the block and put the block in my little bag instead of the earbuds. I wasn't happy about that when I got to the gym. What a dummy!
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Ever since I stopped doing therapy because of insurance, I've been feeling that old tense and irritable sense of anxiety and stress. I hate that. I was making so many strides and changes during therapy, my therapist would acknowledge all of my progress and accomplishments, and I miss that reassurance. Today I thought about it, and I made those changes! She would always tell me that I chose to...
From now on, leave the house and go get the supplies. Give her a time limit and use a timer with a ringer on it for her to follow either yes or no-you're going, anyways. Follow through on it. After your return, it's not up for discussion.
In other words, 'WORDS' are not effective with her. Take physical action and when she throws a temper tantrum (and, yes, that's what it is), just point to the timer and walk away.
Stop indulging her. It's hard, however, you're working, she's not, and she's isolating herself.
So, if it's psychiatric, and you've tried everything you can think of, have you considered going to a psychiatrist with her when she pulls these stunts.
This particular change will produce results, maybe worse maybe better, either way, it will bring a change.
Mid, my worry candidly is that my wife will get mad and do some damage, she got up today and slammed some things and a few weeks ago, a day after going to her psych appt, threw her medicine away, and broke hangers and threw all her clothes on the floor, apparently mad because friends had organized them.
I am inclined to agree that I do not need to stake out some reasonable boundaries.
https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/22277-neurologist