Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
so let’s see hi dudes and dudettes! So my divorce is almost final! Yay! Another two weeks or so and papers will be stamped official. I look better. I feel better. But some days I’m sad and I don’t normally get sad. I’m not really sure why I’m sad- maybe because I’m alone without a partner. I get sad watching sad movies or something simple like that. So this is a new feeling for me to process. I can deal with anxiety but the sadness - how do you deal with it? Do you make an appt for sadness like set a time - 10 or 15 min and sit alone and be sad, cry, etc? Just to get it out of your system. I guess there isn’t like a formula or anything. But it’s sorta a new feeling. Any feedback would be helpful
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
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First, I hope everyone is doing well, and continuing to fight that good fight! Keep up the great work on yourselves; I'm rooting for all of you!So, I started doing therapy at the beginning of the year, when I was in my most depressed state, but with my therapist, I made big changes and steps in the right direction. But, over a month ago, she couldn't take my insurance anymore, and I had to stop...
I just let myself feel the sadness when it arises to whatever extent it needs to exert itself. Typically, with gentle awareness, it *simply* passes across the horizon like a cloud. Sometimes I need to stop what I am doing and give in to a good cry. It's far more efficient than going through the antics it takes to fight ^it^.
But that is me. . .
Gentle support while you find what works for you, Kennedi.
Ya. Ugh
It sounds like you have a lot of awareness about your emotions, which is great. It can be hard to cope with emotions we are not used to feeling as often. I think the biggest thing is to try and be kind to yourself; like others have mentioned, to let yourself feel the way you feel and to know that it is normal and okay. Also something that helps me is to stay mindful and aware of my emotions, and also acknowledge that the emotion will eventually pass (this is especially helpful if it feels very intense and I feel I am having trouble coping). Arfie's analogy of emotions as clouds passing through the sky (and we as observers) is a great one.
I was thinking about your idea about making an appointment for sadness, and I actually really like that idea! Of course, we cannot always control (and don't have to) when our emotions decide to pay us a visit. However, I think you could definitely schedule a time devoted to processing how you've been feeling that day. Do you like to write? I find for me that writing/journaling helps me process my emotions so, so much. After a good journaling session, I usually have a deeper understanding of myself and my feelings, and usually just feel a whole lot better. I think the act of getting my feelings out on paper (rather than letting them sit inside myself) helps a lot.
One last recommendation - is there anyone you trust you could talk to? Or have you considered counseling? Talking through emotions can always be helpful, and it can be especially helpful to do so with someone like a therapist, who will listen nonjudgmentally and guide you in processing through it.
Sending you warm thoughts.
Looking for another counselor though. I want a Christian based counselor and there are several in my community. Just need to honker down make some phone calls and select one that takes my insurance.