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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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hope20z 10/18/2007

I am going to the doctor tomorrow again and this time my mom wants to come with me. I am 20 ans she still worrys greatly, however, I am really anxious about even talking to my doctor. She said that she just simply wants to know how to deal with all of this. But in the past I know her to add her opinion on perscriptions and treatments and what not. But it still makes me so nervous.

Is this reasonable? Should she be able to go with me? Am I being to closed off with her and the doctor?

The pyschiatrist has me on 1mg Xanax 3x a day and valium to sleep. It has been helping but not as I hoped it would. I think that she is concerned of what I am taking and I don't want her to push me off of the track of me and my doctor.

Any suggestions?

deleted_user 10/18/2007

Have your mom go in with you at first and then politely ask your mom to leave because you have to talk to the doctor about personal stuff, i am sure she will understand. That way she is still there, but you also have some time to talk to the doctor alone...and don't be afraid to tell the doctor EVERYTHING you are feeling, because he can't help you, unless he knows! Chin up :)

deleted_user 10/18/2007

Your mom loves you and will be able to tell the doc her prespective of your behavior. that probably is a good thing. We can't always get across how we are feeling, especially under pressure. My son is 24, recently diagnoses Bi-Ppolar and I go to every appt with him

deleted_user 10/18/2007

I would not have your mom come with you to see your dr you are an adult and its your choice to decide what is best for you maybe you could ask your dr for some suggestions to help your mom understand you better but I have a son who is 23 and is bipolar and we dont go to his appts .

deleted_user 10/18/2007

My son is 25 and suffers anxiety and depression.I go in with him occassionally.

Men tend not to reveal everything and something that they think is nothing can actually be very important.

Every 6 weeks or so I go in.

Your mum would need your permission.As some of the others have said let her come in for half and you spend the other half of the appointment with your Doctor.

deleted_user 10/19/2007

i think its important for your mom to understand what you are going through from the doctors perspective, but i definately agree that you need alone time with your doctor and do tell him your concerns about your mom. i have three grown sons and i would be greatly concerned if they were facing any kind of problem. i would want to know all i could without infringing on their privacy.

deleted_user 10/19/2007

I can relate, when I saw a psychologist at about 22 my dad went in with me and it made me very uncomfortable. I understand your mom's concern, but you need privacy to talk to your doctor.

deleted_user 10/19/2007

You can ask your mom to come with you but wait outside the door. If you feel you need her you know she is there for you and all you have to do is invite her in. You have a very loving mother. Her support will help make you strong.

MrOutacontrol 10/19/2007

First thing, set the ground rules with your Mom. Let her know you value her thoughts, and appreciate another set of ears to hear what gets said, but that the appointment is about you. Then voice your concerns to your doc--it will only take a few seconds, he's probably heard it before. If she doesn't think she can hang back a bit, go alone or with someone else--that is if you are able to be honest with the doc. If you think you might not be able to speak up, or might bull**** the doc, having someone with you might be a good idea. Best of luck

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