Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I am in college and this semester, I found a mentor in one of my professors. He is so kind and I have been more open with him than any other professor (I am too scared to even approach most people). But this professor has shown so much positive regard towards me and been so encouraging. It has been wonderful, except I am literally terrified I will do something to make him not like me anymore. I keep obsessing over things I've done and reasons he might hate me.
I met with him yesterday to talk about a project I helped with this semester, and we also talked about other things. As usual, he was so encouraging and told me I was never bothering him (I always apologize because I feel bad I waste his time).
Anyway, after our conversation, I realized I forgot to pick up a USB drive I'd handed in for a project, so I emailed him and asked if there would be any way he could bring my USB drive to our final tomorrow. However, now I feel guilty because just yesterday, he was sharing with me how stressed he was with all the things he had to grade before the end of the semester. So now I feel like I was being selfish for asking him to remember to bring my USB drive when he already has so many other things on his mind. He did not reply to my email, and I am worried he is annoyed with me or thinks I am being selfish and not considering the fact he's stressed out.
Do you think this was rude of me to ask if he could remember to bring my USB? I feel like it was and I am feeling really upset/angry at myself for being selfish and not considering his stress. How can I stop feeling this way?
I met with him yesterday to talk about a project I helped with this semester, and we also talked about other things. As usual, he was so encouraging and told me I was never bothering him (I always apologize because I feel bad I waste his time).
Anyway, after our conversation, I realized I forgot to pick up a USB drive I'd handed in for a project, so I emailed him and asked if there would be any way he could bring my USB drive to our final tomorrow. However, now I feel guilty because just yesterday, he was sharing with me how stressed he was with all the things he had to grade before the end of the semester. So now I feel like I was being selfish for asking him to remember to bring my USB drive when he already has so many other things on his mind. He did not reply to my email, and I am worried he is annoyed with me or thinks I am being selfish and not considering the fact he's stressed out.
Do you think this was rude of me to ask if he could remember to bring my USB? I feel like it was and I am feeling really upset/angry at myself for being selfish and not considering his stress. How can I stop feeling this way?
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Do you think anxiety is genetic or comes from your environment? What are your thoughts?
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Many of you know Mr K told me to "shut your mouth" in March 2025 when we took a road trip to Alpena Michigan. Since that time, we have had lots of ups and downs but I have never intentionally hurt Mr K in anyway. And when we first started dating in 2024 he let me know, although he is an engineer by degree, he has an extremely low EQ. Overall, he is ok (not off the charts nice like other guys in...
It is making things really hard. I have this deep unfulfilled need for acceptance and I know it comes from having a critical/rejecting father growing up, so now I seek that approval from others. How do I stop when I feel empty without it?
As for your question. I do not think you were rude. However, let's pretend it was rude for a moment. What do you think the most realistic outcome would be? Is it realistic that he would suddenly hate you and look at you as less of a person? Or is it more realistic to think he would look at it as one mistake that is outweighed by all the positive qualities he knows in you?
Remember good and worthy people are imperfect. Everyone makes mistakes. Everyone has flaws. Reasonable people do not reject someone based on one simple mistake or flaw. Caring about someone means accepting the flaws along with the good qualities. If a person had to be perfect to be accepted, we'd all be alone.
Realizing you don't have to be perfect to be good/worthy/accepted is the other thing you need to work on along with accepting yourself. Again, this is an issue I relate to myself. I get in the mindset that I have to be perfect to be accepted or I'm nothing, but that type of all or nothing thinking is unrealistic. We would not expect that of others so why do we expect it of ourselves?
I hope that helps you some.