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Not taking personally when it feels pointed

angelscrydragon
angelscrydragon

This seems like a really dumb question, but how do you not take something personal when it feels pointed?



I am currently at work, wondering what I did to piss everyone off today? I feel like I came into work around my normal time (which never affects anyone), and now I have people angry at me. I feel like everyone is trying to make it difficult for me in my office. I share an office with 6 other people, but today there are only 3 in the office, and they are in and out once in awhile. I checked the schedule to see when an appropriate time would be to close the door so I can make a professional call. As soon as I close the door I get two of them walking in, and staying in almost the whole time that I am on the call. And then they get ready to leave the room and decide that I don't need the light on like I am not even in the room....



Why do I feel like my emotional health is never considered here? Why do I have to consider everything for everyone else, but I don't get considered?


arfie
arfie
How do I not take something personal when it feels pointed? ? ? Same way I keep myself from getting caught up in somebody else's pointless drama, I reckon. Fuck if I know. . . I just says my prayers and hopes for the best. Detachment exercises seem to help some, but ^it^ is still hard. Some days is suckier than others.

Steadying support while you tend your own emotional needs. Inside my own strictly personals, my emotional needs seem to be most effectively met when I do it myself. I know where all the sore spots are.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Stop. You may have noticed them, and they may have not noticed you or wanted you to say something to them.

It's NOT personal. It is a business place. You get paid to work.

Focus on what you can do to improve your well-being by keeping track of what you do for you, what you are doing to keep up in the work place, and leave the rest out of it.

You are NOT responsible for what others say and do, You are responsible for what you do, say, and how you respond.

Best wishes. Some days just get started off track. Keep yourself on track.
Bluejay96
Bluejay96
Sigh.... sometimes people can just be rude.

Stay professional. The higher ups will notice in time and see the difference between you and them.
stillstanding
stillstanding
There are always two sides to every story. They truly may not have known that you were still there since its Saturday? Or maybe that was their awkward way of getting you to speak with them? Maybe there was something going on with them that made them feel like that was how they could get your undivided attention? Don't worry, it is most likely not about you.

I have had those days and ultimately remembered my paycheck was coming soon. I was getting paid to be there.
TypeC
TypeC
I feel your pain. But I have come to realize that people's behavior is more about THEM than it is you. People are rude and people are **sholes, I'm not. That way of thinking kinda got me flipped around. For instance, we are in a legal battle with some folks who bought property next to us. THEY caused the problem but I took it personally. When I started to realize what kind of people they are and that I/we didn't do anything, I realized how miserable they must be. So apply this thinking to your co-workers and maybe it'll help.
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