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kati612
kati612

I don't know what to do or who I can voice my issue with.


I have a coworker/friend that has been in my life for many years.  I feel that she is very manipulative and on a certain level is emotionally abusive.


Some things happened on Friday and now she isn't talking to me after throwing some very hurtful comments at me.


How do I deal with the work environment and also her not being part of my life?


I haven't been sleeping well to start with and now with this I really haven't been.  

Community LeaderMid
Mid
Take a moment to consider that this is her problem, not yours. You have done everything right. Her comments are not your problem. Praise your words, praise your actions, and take the step forward.

Sleep will happen when you figure out how to add something positive to this and every other issue that pops up. Just because it happens, does NOT make it your problem.

When someone says something negative to me, I hear it, and consider it their personal opinion. It's not up to me to try to change it.

You can move forward. Sometimes, we have to let the other person suffer through their own opinion and figure it out themselves without any input from us, in any way, shape, form. Silence is golden.
djchurn
djchurn
Frequently the response of another is enough to keep the insults coming. Find a way not to react and hope that this will give cause for your co-worker to reflect and change their behavior.
darkside2276
darkside2276
Sometimes it is hard when you are working under the same roof. However I agree with other people here that ignore it, that co-worker is not worth your lack of sleep and pain, I believe that what others think about me is none of my business. I know the person I am and I am worth every positive thing out there and if someone is giving a negative attitude and hurling insults at me, it's time to shut them out and walk away and move on. take care
PearlSkye
PearlSkye
I truly believe the first thing you have to do when suffering with anxiety is weed out the people who make you feel bad about yourself and or worsen your symptons! You work with her so maybe limit contact with her as much as possible, soon she won't even be on your radar as you will start to have more positive experiences than negative due to the lack of contact with her. In the meantime if you're into mediation maybe try some positive affirmations increase confidence and self-worth!
happyonislands
happyonislands
I understand that you are hurt. This is your friend. However, the issue is causing you anxiety and loss of sleep, which is not good for your health, physically or mentally.

Attempt to talk to her personally about your feelings and that you value the friendship. Believe it or not, some people do not understand that their words and actions are hurtful towards others. If you do not feel comfortable, have someone else mediate. If she’s truly values the friendship, she will not be offended and change her actions and approaches. You are wonderful person 

Good luck! I wish you all the best.
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