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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Not in crisis anymore, but....

mmk78
mmk78

I'm worried about this becoming a pattern. 

I talked to my boyfriend today and he said that he was scared. Like, he *really* didn't seem happy. I suppose I haven't ever gotten this bad, so I was scared too. And there's nothing he can do about it either - he lives in a different country.

But he said that he was worried about this becoming a pattern. Neither do I. And of course, that makes me worry more. 

arfie
arfie
One of the nastier things that can happen with worry is called, "Self-fulfilling Prophecy." That is where you, without deliberate intention, end up making the worry come true just because you worried so much about it. When two people share that same worry, you run more than twice as much risk of self-fulfilling prophecy because two people really can accomplish more than twice as much when they work together.

There are no guarantees, either way, MMK. Either way, we are here for you. Gentle support while you let the future unfold.
AnnieToman
AnnieToman
your right arfie, self fullfilling prophecy is a law of the universe, if you truly believe its true the universe will supply it for you.
Ninja_Tonks
Ninja_Tonks
This sounds like a complicated situation. I wonder what behavior is it that is cropping back up?

Worrying won't do you any good. But what you can do is take careful and precise notes about what is going on so that you can see the patterns and analyze them. If you don't write down what is happening, you'll try and keep track of it all in your head, and that is very stressful

If you record your behavior or symptoms over time--staying as consistent as possible--you will see if a pattern emerges. And then you can do something about it! Don't feel out of control. There are things you can do! Best wishes <3
mattster
mattster
I am glad that you're not in crisis anymore! Remember it's always one day at a time. :-)
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Three things to remember when you are talking, texting, or thinking long distance.

Your voice shares your emotions. Your words share your emotions. Your thoughts share your emotions.

Think calm, peace, and warm thoughts. Use calm, peace, and warm words. Breathe warm, peace, and calm. This will help you to keep your balance when connecting with the person.

Best wishes.
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