Living with someone with anxiety, it seems like a lot of people take the wrong approach. Rather than try to change your mindset which is fairly hard, work on changing what you do. Try to make a list of short and long-term goals, things you like to do or will help your life and start working on them. Put aside if you feel good now, etc.

They had a study about being happy and guess what, those who thought about being happy were no happier. A football coach wrote a book calling the Winning takes care of itself. The thesis is don't worry about winning, work on doing the things that will make you a better player and the winning will come naturally.

I'm wishing comfort for you. Since you can't talk to anyone, just write. Whether it is here, journaling, get it all out. That tends to help me. And take care of your body. Drink a lot of water, do some exercise such as walking, get outdoors if you can. Take a lovely warm bath or shower and use something that smells good. Eat. Do some easy housework so you can feel some accomplishment. Do something.

Thank you Bobby. The sports reference makes sense.
It’s so interesting though that on these days, I literally feel like I can’t do anything. I know that’s ridiculous and wrong. And I understand what you are saying.
I have much to do but am actually upset that I feel so darn bad.

Candygurl thank you. I actually am doing little things around house. Did go outside.
So overwhelming today. I don’t get it.

anxiety is a hard-wired part of the survival instinct in all the known species with enough self-awareness to have a survival instinct. do you really want to cure your survival instinct?

crying is one of the most cathartic of ways to vent excess anxiety buildups which create the classic anxiety overdose.

indulge yourself.
rocking you gently and crying with you.
you're doing better than you are giving yourself credit for.

Thanks Arfie. But there’s a level of anxiety that I can take. And this is beyond today.
Felt bad all day even doing my normal things to get out of it and taking my meds.
I do have something I’m worried about though so I assume that is the root of it.

I’m right there with you.. wake up every morning and it takes maybe an hour or so before the brain races and anxiety takes hold. It comes and goes in waves… sometimes bearable, other times I feel like I’m trapped in my own skin and can’t escape.

I will say that crying helps Sarah. Just give in to it and let it out. At first it’s uncomfortable, but if you let yourself go it can indeed be cathartic.

We’re with you. You aren’t going through this alone.

Thanks. Valediction. Yes sometimes bearable. But I am a worrier and I overthink things so that doesn’t help anything!
And believe me I cry!!

Don’t you wonder why some people are so predisposed to this condition. Like I have an older sister and she doesn’t get anxiety like this. I had postpartum depression and I think that may have been the start to all of this.
But why. And why can’t there be a cure. I know there are meds and therapy but that’s truly not enough. You could have 24 hour round the clock someone with you. That would be the only answer I see.

I do wonder that, and I think it’s a combination of genetic predisposition and events in childhood. I’m certainly not a psychiatrist… but I vividly remember being like, 8 or 9, and going on vacation with my family. A good friend of mine was also on vacation in a nearby campground, and I desperately wanting to hang out with him. I remember calling his landline (‘‘twas the 80,s) 5-10 times a day trying to get in touch with him. I remember feeling like I was being ignored and he didn’t want to be my friend… we ultimately did hang out, but I’ve never forgotten that scenario , and I see the same patterns playing out decades later.

To your point, everyone just told me to calm down… but I couldn’t!

As for a cure.. I think it’s a combination of the right therapies, whatever those may be. I don’t think there will ever be a “silver bullet”… we just gonna keep trying until we get relief.

Keep your head up! You can do this.