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No one likes my posts anymore

kennedi10
kennedi10

So I'm really down because no one likes my pictures anymore. And my pics are the bomb! I'm doing some great things and all I do is post photos of myself. I love having that database of pics that I can look back on and say hey that year I was doing this and that day I was doing that, etc. I never ever really received many female likes. I have a lot of female haters. Always have been that way. Some folk think I brag but I don't. It's just when I visit fab places and do fab things I like to post the photos of me in those places. I used to get a lot of male likes but now I don't even get those. I do have a new boyfriend now and we really look good together so I'm not sure if all of this is jealousy. But I see so many other photos that aren't better than mine and those photos get much more likes than me. So I'm like what in the world is going on. Why don't folk like my pics? I'm gonna keep on posting pics because I like to have that catalogue of photos. Sometimes I can just sit and look at my pics all day long. I've done that so many times. lol I'm so fascinated with photography and how I look in the photos. I love looking at my outfits and my hairstyles and the background of the pics. People used to love looking at my pics. But now hardly anyone likes them. Perhaps my pics don't look good to them. But they really look phenomenal to me. I'm in my 50s and don't look anywhere near it. But something has changed. I've even looked at pics where I posted years ago and got a lot of likes and they don't look better than my current pics. It's just such a mystery and well it has me puzzled and depressed. 

kennedi10
kennedi10
And I don’t want to get off of social media. I like the idea of posting pics and having everyone see them.
arfie
arfie
If you are promoting an art career, why would you get off social media? Expand, by all means, but don't throw the proverbial baby out with the bath water.

Artist to artist, keeping a continuous audience/following is, far and away, harder than creating new works. I figure that if I am creating for the sake of winning the applause, I've missed the point, entirely.

For what it's worth
To maintain a continuous audience, expanding your repertoire might be a good idea. However stunning the subject, a one-trick pony seldom gets more than five minutes of fame, if even that.
Emerald0743
Emerald0743
Forget the haters. Post your pictures because you enjoy it. People are probably jelous its been a hard year for many people. Dont let it bring you down though. Keep living your best life and do what makes you happy. Dont give others the power to make you sad.
carlyj1202
carlyj1202
No one is hating, I am certainly not. I am not seeing any photos but I would surely love to see them.

Nor do I see posts. If there has ever been a broken record it is mine complaining that DS has ads all over your post so I can not read. Is it just me or is anyone else having that problem?

Hugs!
Tazzie
Tazzie
PLEASE dont take social media so seriously :) Take this from someone, at one time, it meant the world to me. I am 51 now and looking back at some of the things I posted or pics I posted. I got tons of likes and it felt good. But peoples lives and dynamics change. People get married. Have kids and grandkids. Move on. Get involved with other things and dont have much time for social media any more. Try to get involved with a hobby to distract you from the social media. Believe me you will feel free and so much better without the computer drama :)
rmb
rmb
Is this for real? Maybe people are bored or just aren’t that interested. No one finds us or our lives nearly as interesting or as compelling as we find them. And it has nothing to do with jealousy.
jessekay
jessekay
You got to do what makes you happy enough pictures make you happy than not your passion and if it's your passion you go for your go for it post them and just ignore the negativity social media can be very judgemental I do very try just to do very little of it as I can keep positive
Community LeaderMid
Mid
Stop. Pause. Breathe. Take a step back.

What exactly are you wanting?

Everything is in a single paragraph-and the one common word is photo. If you are feeling motivated to be acknowledged through your photos, then work out exactly what type of acknowledgement you want.

Social media is different than being in person connection.

Negative comments belong to the person who says them. They are NOT your problem. However, in most cases, you can automatically delete them, which is what I do where I can, for my well-being.

Depends exactly on what you want.
kennedi10
kennedi10
Thanks everyone for the feedback! I do have a lot of haters. And I have been told that I sometimes brag a lot. But I don’t look at it as bragging. I really love my photos. I guess I’m just realizing that I’m not as popular as I think I am. lol. And I’m in my 50s as well but all of this seems so childish as far as me thinking no one likes me photos. Even though they are super fab! So I’ve resolved the fact that you know what- I look good, my background in my photos look good, I’ve been to some great places during this pandemic to include the Caribbean and Vegas and some other places and you know what - the haters can keep on hatin but I’m gonna post my photos. And this may make me post more often! lol my hobby is photography and I want people to see the beauty in my photos that I see. And if they don’t like it- it’s ok. I know they are watching my page - the haters.
kennedi10
kennedi10
I’m definitely not going to run away from social media. That means the haters have won. This has motivated me to post more good looking photos of myself. If nothing else I have a nice database of photos that I can look at any time along with my funny and thought provoking captions underneath my photos.
bgdsuser23
bgdsuser23
I wouldn't be too hard on yourself about the pics or haters or whatever. This has been a really difficult year and people are probably self-absorbed. Also, the jealousy angle could be a factor.. I like how you said, "I love having that database of pics that I can look back on and say hey that year I was doing this and that day I was doing that, etc." - that seems important.
kennedi10
kennedi10
Thanks bdgsuser! Yes 2020 was rough. I have to agree.
kennedi10
kennedi10
And emerald - I love your pic! You are so pretty!
Mindfulness1
Mindfulness1
Do what makes you happy. Take pictures, post them to maintain your virtual data/collection.

Please stop looking for external validation. It is causing you stress.

Does it really matter what others think of your pictures if it brings you joy?
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