I have anxiety too. Sometimes it is real bad like off the charts. Other times it is not so bad. Any major event like when I retired, triggers an episode. Or if I have household issues like repairs my mind goes wild. When you said your husband wants to go on vacation, I thought about how this might trigger an episode. When I was in a relationship and we planned something like a trip or a night out, my anxiety was horrific to the point that we couldn't go. It was the preparation for travel, the social anxiety, the whole having to do something that made me anxious. I'd worry about leaving my house to travel all the what if's. Anxiety is crippling to say the least. We want to live and experience life and have fun. All the unknowns keep us from living. Take care

Hello SummerSky. Welcome to the forum.

My anxiety remedies never seem to work forever, either. I think I build as much tolerance for psychotherapy tools as I do with meds. After a while, they start feeling more like ritual than therapy. Worse, today's solution all to often grows in to tomorrow's problem. That would be part of the reason my peer support network is so valuable. My peers often have suggestions I never would have found on my own.

You just tried a brand new --to you-- psyochotherapy tool in making this post. Did it help? I hope you'll keep trying. It takes time to build skill with any tool.

Welcome aboard. Hope you find healing companionship here.

Thank you all, yea making this post was a little helpful. I seem to shut people out when I'm having a difficult time cause I don't want to seem like a burden to them. I just feel like my anxiety is all I talk about anymore and it's annoying.

Welcome to the group. With this type of anxiety happening, write out the lists, and see what the pattern is.

You can find your balance no matter where you are once you know what works with certain patterns.

Best wishes.

I'll try that, thank you.

May the little bits of helpful grow into a tool you can have confidence in, Summer.

Is it good news that you have found a place where it's okay to talk about nothing but anxiety? In my own strictly personals, having a place where I can bare ^it^ to the bone makes it easier to be less annoying in the places where it really is an inappropriate subject. The deliberate baring makes it easier to set it aside while I live the rest of my life.

Here's something I discovered about my anxiety. Maybe this will help you. Not all anxiety is about things that will never happen .Some of the anxiety is because of past events. For example-when there is a bad storm, I worry about my tree falling over. Some people would say that is silly or unrealistic. but, in fact the tree has 3 trunks and 1/3 did fall down years ago. So, I relive or worry about this happening again. When I hear things on the news like fire or car accidents my anxiety starts up bad. We seem to be more aware or sensitive to things happening because they can or sometimes do. I wish I could be someone that almost never worries and just enjoy life. Good luck to you dear person

Thank you all for the advice.

I didn't read everything posted, but I just thought I'd mention what I like to do when I'm having anxiety about going somewhere. Usually I only get anxious if I'm going somewhere new. But things that have helped me are going on Google maps, getting photos and streetviews of the place, and reading reviews online of the place, checking Instagram for hashtags of the place, ect. I always feel a little better by remote viewing. Also, a lot of my anxiety is because of my ibs, so I always make sure there's restrooms very near wherever I may have to be. And on the day of the trip I like to get up 2 hours earlier than I should so that I can leisurely get ready without any urgency. And if my IBS acts up, then it's still okay because I got up early enough. I hope you get to go on your trip and you have a good time. And I hope this helps some. Oh and it also helps me if whomever I'm going with promises they won't leave my side.

I will try that, thank you for replying.

summer--look at your new circle of friends and safe support!

I am grateful for Arfie's comment about "tool tolerance"--I thought it was just me doing something wrong!

Yes thank you all so much for responding.

Hi there.i’m new Here also.it’s hard when you can’t catch a breath when anxiety or worrying about it is always on your mind.my savior is breathing exercises and at night breathing exercise with a muscle tension/relax exercise. Wish you the best