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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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HowMuchLonger
HowMuchLonger

I’m really trying to face this irrational fear of mine, but I’m finding it difficult to take that next step. I keep repeating the same thing in my head “I’m strong I can do this” I even say it out loud hoping it will help, but I can’t do it. What’s wrong with me?


I want this really badly. How do I move past this??

Breezy28
Breezy28
What is the fear you are talking about?
GirlinCalif
GirlinCalif
Try taking a baby step toward it. And when that goes well, take another step forward. Sometimes we have to just - do it. Too much thinking about a particular fear makes our brains think all kinds of worse case scenarios. Taking a step toward doing it will help you feel more in control too. And, much of anxiety comes from a misperceived lack of control. You can do this!!
arfie
arfie
Since I participated in an "ACT Workshop" in 2012, I have been giving "Mindfulness" a try on my more stubborn symptoms. I ply "Radical Acceptance" to the fact that ^it^ is there and working its mischief today, then mentally shift ^it^ to the back burner of my consciousness while I forge on with my day as best I can. If my synopsis is even intelligible, it is far easier said than done, but. . . Sigh. . .

I'd still rather just it all, but the cosmos forgot to ask my opinion, again.

Gentle empathy, HML. Wish I had easy answers for both of us.
caring2018
caring2018
I am sorry you are struggling with fear. Fear can really debilitate us if we allow it. I am glad you trying to do self-talk that you can do it. That does work, but it may take several reminders to yourself. We have patterns of behavior that we tend to repeat, even though we don't want to, that is what our mind is used to. It is our choice to break those patterns. So telling yourself you don't have to be afraid and you can do it are very helpful to breaking those patterns. I pray often and know God does not want us to fear. I try to trust Him on a daily basis. I remind myself that He is my strength and He got this so I don't have to be afraid. 'Take a step out in faith' is my favorite phrase. We make things more difficult than they are by thinking about them. Yes, it is good to plan but not dwell. I am still learning the difference. I will keep you in my prayers. I know you can be strong and be able to take the next step and break the bondage of fear. You are stronger than you think. I have let fear hold me back and learned that is not the way life is supposed to be. You can do it my friend, I believe in you. Please keep in touch and let us know how you are doing. Lots of Hugs!
caring2018
caring2018
How are you doing this week? I have been praying for you.
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