Hello. Not sure our situations have much in common but happy to talk if it helps. Did you already have anxiety? To move cross country then not go to the job seems incredibly tough. Are you still in communication with them? Maybe just be honest about what's going on and they may help. Obviously they wanted you as an employee.

Thanks for your reply! I did already have anxiety, but I thought it had been managed for the most part. I think what happened is now that I have the time and space to myself, my body and mind decided it was a good time to feel all the feelings I had repressed. It’s a good thing for my mental health and growth, but I wasn’t prepared for it.

The company was very understanding and asked me to reach out again in the future. It’s nice to know they care about employees. I’m not sure if I want to stay in that field, though, because it also happens to cause me a lot of anxiety.

Moving is very stressful. It makes sense to be extra anxious. Sounds like you are having a bit of depression going on as well. Be extra kind to yourself at this time. Carve out time for things you enjoy and appreciate.

It must be hard at times to have to manage so much and feel alone. I was very alone after moving to a new city once and it was a challenge. I hope you are able to find connection and people to talk to; that would be helpful.

Try not to predict what may or may not happen at the new job. You can't know until you try. It might be great and just what you need, especially in terms of making new connections and building a sense of accomplishment.

Some anxiety is to be expected with all you are doing, and that is okay. Don't let it deter you from moving forward into new opportunities.

Take good care.

hello orange crab. welcome to ds.

whatever the sets of stresses and/or changes i am assimilating, having a support network makes a huge diff in my own coping. as valuable as pro support can be, it is my peer supporters who help me translate that high dollar jargon into daily life.

i hope you'll feel safe to vent, sort and/or reach out for support here.
welcome aboard. you are not alone. listening. . .

You moved across country. You did that. That's amazing! I am sure you feel lots of anxiety. I would be going nuts just thinking about moving. Its natural that you feel anxious, but I am sure your anxiety is way off the charts compared to most folks, but you can do it! Just try remember that the thoughts that torment us are never completely realist.
I wont tell you that you have no valid concerns. I cant stand it when people tell us that we are wrong about our view of the world. We know people judge us. Its a reality, but their judgement does not have to define us. We define ourselves. I know this to be true through experience. Its a self fulfilling prophecy. I have defined myself as defective my whole life and it is a reality because I believe it to be true. Its not true though! Its not true for me, and it is not true for you. You are doing what you need to do. You have made the move and that is courage in my book. You have that!
If you need more support I will be here for you. Write me anytime.

Hi, Welcome to DS. The unknown spikes my anxiety so much. Starting a new job and moving to a new place would make so many anxious. I hope things work out with your new job.

Welcome to the anxiety board at DS.

You've joined the best group to help you figure out how to move forward with your recovery to a better balance!

Moving across country is awesome! That's powerful to know you did it!

I was involved in support groups most of my life. Of course, until the pandemic hit. They are the best!!!! You'll get loads of support if they ever come back IN PERSON!!! Oh I miss groups in person!! That's the best way to meet people. In the meantime, we gotta do what we gotta do---welcome to our online group, you'll like it here!

I feel you orangecrab! I recently moved across the world… twice! And anxiety can be debilitating. But it gets better. :)

Make sure to put yourself out there. I found some places are easier to make friends than others, but either way you need to put yourself out there. It is hard, some days I physically had to force myself to get moving. And some days it’s okay to get stuck in a rut and reflect.

You are lucky in the fact that you recognize your anxiety… and you are able to process it so much better. A lot of people feel this way and don’t know why. They turn to unhealthy, toxic coping mechanisms. They feel they are not allowed to “check out” for a little while. But it is okay. Just beware of focussing so much on your anxiety and depression that you miss everything else.

I always try to think back to a place where I felt happy and good, and then I think that I’ve survived feeling like this before, and I will survive again. And one day I will be happy and good again. It is the nature of life. For every down there must be an up right? I would like to believe so. The downs are unavoidable, so I tell myself the ups are too. I give myself a timeline. Decide I will allow my anxiety a few days or a week to determine my actions. Allow myself to “check out” and deal with those feelings. But then once the deadline is up, I pick myself up and get out there. It is hard, and the first couple of days usually feel not quite right, but eventually you get into living again. And you are able to find a balance. Breathing also helps!

Life is just a limited amount of time we have, and I refuse to let myself feel down and out for all of it. That is where my deadline idea came from.

I know we all process our own ways, but sometimes we hear a different perspective and something clicks and helps us improve the way we work through things ourselves.

I hope my perspective helps. :)