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Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...

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Yagirlmani01
Yagirlmani01

I woke up feeling a little better today... but me and my mom aren't speaking to each other right now because we got into this big fight. She went as far as calling me a who**. How do I speak to her again after that... This is what makes me depressed. I don't have enough support from family. I don't have many friends because they've all been fake to me throughout the years. I feel like I have no one. 

arfie
arfie
When I can't figure out how to get past an argument, I pray/meditate/share on it until the way, opportunity and the words present themselves. The danger in that approach is that I, all too often, end up procrastinating until I end up repressing, but it works often enough that it is always worth a try.

Keep venting, Yagi. Your answers are in there.
two_fires
two_fires
Often those we love the most can also cut the deepest with words said during an argument or just venting as an outlet of stress and other problems. I can certainly understand why you feel the way you do. I'm hoping that today got better and that perhaps you have been able to talk some. Try not to think about the argument and words but the fact that it bothers you and how you want things to be different.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
You are responsible for what you say, do, act, react, and respond. You are NOT responsible for what others say, do, act, react, and respond.

When you change the way you say, do, act, react, and respond for your well-being, it changes their usual response, sometimes, for the worse as the usual response no longer fits. It changes,

For me, once I practiced the stop, pause, breathe, option, until I was calm enough to think clearly in the moment, I was able to remain silent and that stopped the words from escalating.

It does not take away the 'hurt feeling', however it does stop the automatic return fire words flying back and forth.

In supporting my well-being and not taking the words aimed at me personally, I was able to consider the information included in the conversation so that when it came up again, I had a calm, clear, and concise comment to speak.

Finding the balance in the moment, and working through the 'hurt' to release the feeling naturally is worth the effort. It will change the way you speak with this person.

A word that defines a specific relationship is not the same as a word spoken by the specific person. I removed the relationship and put a name in its place in order to figure out how I wanted to handle the subject when it came up again.

I agree, keep venting safely, and express all of the feelings. Experience the full moment and release it.
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