the lord works in mysterious ways.
any chance that you can channel this anguish into stretching your comfort zone far enough to allow new social opportunities?

just wondering. . .

You have to treat the loss of a friendship as if the person died. I know it sounds awful but a friendship ending is the equivalent of someone dying. You still go through the 7 stages of grief because loss is loss be it a friendship ending or a death. There are resources online to help with the grieving process if you need them. I hope you feel better and get through this ok.

I just lost a good friend because of that. I was not comfortable doing what they wanted so I cut them off permanent. Ask yourself, would a true friend make you do something your uncomfortable doing??

At the beginning of this, I read something that a true friend would never make you do something you're uncomfortable with and will try to text first. She never texted first. I didn't notice any of this before. I used to trust her completely and tell her everything and now I have no one to talk to.
I have made new friends and they are all supportive and willing to accommodate my needs. None of them really have phones though. It's so much easier for me to talk by text rather than in person because I can think about what I want to say and how to say it. Besides, I always get interrupted during conversations and I'm too shy to speak to more than 2 people at a time.

i'm with you on preferring to write in place of talking. my speech defect makes that one a no-brainer. i couldn't be a social superstar if my life depended on it.

however, i grow tremendously every i set my preferences aside and stretch my comfort zone. the world shrinks to a mighty small place when i hold my preferences sacred.

Yep agree. To me these are are opportunities for growth, to challenge yourself, to start getting out of your comfort zone. Friendships take initiative on both sides, give and take. If you believe you can only do XYZ, then that’s really you assigning limits to yourself.

There is a balance between being yourself and not changing for someone else, but also trying new ways of thinking and doing so you can learn and grow.

. I second wolvessonata on this - losing a friend is like someone dying, and it helps to be aware of the stages of grief so you can have something to hold onto and be more understanding/forgiving with yourself in tough times.
I also struggle with conversations in groups of friends sometimes. Maybe you can plan to hang out with just 1-2 people at a time and see it it helps.

I had a best friend from 7th grade til 12th grade. Then she went to college and met a guy. In the meantime, I got struck with OCD. She couldn't handle it even though her father was a psychologist. I used to have dreams of her being upset because I wouldn't acknowledge her. Then one day, I ran into her Mom. She said that my friend was just talking to me. She took my numbers. My friend called me at work and we made plans to get together for dinner at her house. She had a big sign to welcome me with my little brother's pronunciation of my name and flowers for me. We hung out a few times but lived far from each other. Now we are Facebook friends. She lets me know that there is a special place in her heart for me. So have you tried talking to your friend? Any chance that she misses you too? I don't know why she believed someone else but you have to clear this up.