Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I'm having a hard time dealing with a break up . His dad is dying of cancer and he has to go be with him in another state. Because he doesn't have much more time . He doesn't know how long he will be gone for but doesn't want to do a long distance relationship cuz he said it hasn't worked in the past. I didn't think it was fair to stay together since we will break up anyways. Did I do the right thing ?
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I did the dumbest thing today. I charged my earbuds, unplugged the block and put the block in my little bag instead of the earbuds. I wasn't happy about that when I got to the gym. What a dummy!
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Ever since I stopped doing therapy because of insurance, I've been feeling that old tense and irritable sense of anxiety and stress. I hate that. I was making so many strides and changes during therapy, my therapist would acknowledge all of my progress and accomplishments, and I miss that reassurance. Today I thought about it, and I made those changes! She would always tell me that I chose to...
I'm sorry you're going through a break up. It's a really distressing and saddening process to go through.
Regarding whether or not you did the right thing is, unfortunately, something no one can really tell you exactly as everyone's experiences are different. I could easily claim yes or no but there are many factors between you and your ex which are only between you and rightfully should be :)
One thing I can say is right now it's ok that you're finding it hard to deal with the breakup. You've lost someone who is likely a big part of your life while you were together and it takes time to grieve the loss of that loved one even when it is a break up!
One thing that might help is contacting close friends and family members who can provide you in person support during this time because it is a hard process to go through and you don't have to go through it alone, and if you can't, there is always people on here to talk to :)
One you've put yourself first and looked after your physical and mental health (depending on how you feel) and the request of your ex (whether or not he wants to stay in contact), you might feel better after sending a message of support to him. You may not be together as a couple but he could still be your friend :)
Is there a right or wrong way to do a relationship? The best I know is to take my best guess and stay true to my own heart. It also helps to keep an optimistic outlook that my life will work out in the long run.
I gotta admire a man who will pick up and be there for a family member in need. I can see where losing him --even for a short time-- would cause major anxiety. Gentle support while you work it through.
Welcome aboard.
He went to be there with his dying father and at this moment if you love the man I suggest you be there for him. Don't lose yourself in your own needs or pity. Before anything else you are his friend and I am sure he is not so happy about losing you either but he is going through a rough time. If you can then be there for him, if you cannot be there for him as a friend then let him be. If you are meant to be together then life will bring you back to one another. If not then not. The only control you have right now is how YOU react to this situation. The rest is not in your hands.
You've taken the important first step in writing it out.
At this point, I'd just be there as a friend.
His focus is going to be completely on his dying father, and in giving him that gift, you'll have a much better relationship in the future by being there for him as a friend.
The difference in being a friend as opposed to attempting to maintain a 'relationship long distance' is in that he is free to meet others without judging, without hurt, without being committed to a relationship.
Often when people return home and get reacquainted with old friends, there are sometimes events that bring out certain behaviors. Not a problem because he is not committed to a relationship.
You are responsible for what you say, do, react, and respond. You are not responsible for what he says, does, reacts, or responds.
Take time to manage your feelings. Write them out in a journal, and keep them private, do not share with friends or him. Find your balance and calm, and take the time to find more of who you are as an individual.
Best wishes as you find your better balance.