Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
hi there. I am new to this group. i joined becuase i feel like no one understands what im going through in my close family and friends, so i figured i would come here to find people who understand. anyway, i have a job interview tomorrow and i am very very anxious about it. i spent a lot of today crying over it, and i wish i could just calm down and not have to go. but i lost my last job due to COVID-19 and i need an income, so here we are. just needed to vent this out in a place where people understand how hard these things can be for people with anxiety. its really hard to explain what is going on in my head and my body. my head is telling me that this is normal to feel nervous to meet new people and start a new job, but my body feels like i just signed up for the frontlines of a war or something. I just feel really scared. im fearful that these new bosses and coworkers will be mean and not like me. i also fear that i will be too quiet and they will think im weird. im not looking to make new friends there, i know i am there to do my job and make money and that is it. but it is just so hard to get my body and mind to get on the same page as reality. its hard to explain. does anybody else ever feel this disconnect from body/mind and from what they know is right? like i know that it will be ok, and i can quit if it doesnt go well. but my body and mind are acting so anxious, like shaking and crying and stomach hurting and disassociating. I should be sleeping since im getting up early, but im too anxious right now. ugh!
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
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Years ago, I won a mirrored armoire from my job. It's in my bedroom but I rarely stand in front of it. Yesterday, I had to have a dexascan done so I had to change into a gown. There was a full length mirror in the changing room. I'm aware that I gained 5 to 7 pounds over the last year from cheating on Keto but I didn't know what it looked like. It was a reality check.
It’s hard to say “Don’t be anxious”, I like to think of interviews in reverse. I pretend that I am the employer and am answering questions of new staff. I know this sounds weird but it works well for me. I also make sure that I fully answer each question and if I don’t have the experience then I say that I can learn. If they do not give me the opportunity to give information that I feel is important I give it in my closing. I also follow up with a letter or email thanking the employer for the opportunity to work with them and am happy to answer any follow-up,questions they might have. I also eat a full breakfast so,I feel strong.
Most employers are not mean. They are just ordinary people like you and me. Just be yourself. I use to feel the way you are describing, but then I realized that they just want to know my experiences and if I can can help them with their needs. Best of luck.
If I say to you “Don’t be anxious”, I know it’s be easier said than done. I used to feel the same way about seeking employment especially during this time. I has taken a toll on me so I partnered with a company online and started my own online digital business. That is beginning to give me peace of mind because I don’t have to worry about the interview process or if I’ll get the job. I only interact with people on the internet. It has been working for me so far. Just be yourself, go in and walk with faith, they just want to know all of your experiences and if you can meet their needs.
Good luck to you. Be sure to let us know how the interview goes.
Somebody telling me, "Don't be anxious" is an anxiety trigger in itself inside my strictly personal psycho dynamics. My childhood was chock full of pervs who would tell me things like, "Don't be anxious" as part of insanely inhumane acts. If there really wasn't anything to be anxious about, the thought would not need to be spoken.
I get further accepting my anxiety as a natural and beneficial, albeit over-developed part of my survival instinct. When I am able to work with that instinct instead of repressing it, I find it really can be a beneficial trait. Managing my anxiety gets me further than searching frantically for a cure for the common me.
Of course, all that is far easier said than done. I have to work out the details of the doing as I go, one round at a time. That is where my peer support network comes in. Having safe places to vent and sort helps tremendously. I hope it helps you, too.
Welcome aboard.
Anxiety is natural. Anxiety is a part of you.
You have taken the important first step in writing it out.
Best wishes with the interview!