Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
I got laid off of my boutique supervisor job a couple of months ago, and just started training for a barista job at a local coffee shop as a survival job. Earlier today, another company offered an interview for a position more like the one I left, and it's left me feeling anxious.
My new job is a LOT busier and more stressful than my old job. I ordinarily wouldn't have taken it if I hadn't felt like I didn't have any other options. My first day of training was really hard and stressful, and when I told my mom this, she said something on the lines of she knew I wouldn't be able to do this job/I wouldn't last in this job. It's made me super doubtful about my ability to do this job, even though I initially thought I would probably do ok when I settled into a routine.
I want to interview at the other company, but how do I manage the current unwanted job? I don't want to hurt my current employer, or my own future employability. The company I'm with now is doing better than the company offering the interview, and I don't want to jump ships too soon, especially since it could make me look like a job hopper. But taking a lower-level position than the one I lost could also hurt my career. I feel like I'm done for either way, like I'll never be successful.
What should I do? How can I better manage my anxiety?
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I haven't written in my diary on my computer since May because I thought that my computer was dying. I got away from writing but my computer is hanging in there. I think that I will start writing in it again. It's so therapeutic.
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Years ago, I won a mirrored armoire from my job. It's in my bedroom but I rarely stand in front of it. Yesterday, I had to have a dexascan done so I had to change into a gown. There was a full length mirror in the changing room. I'm aware that I gained 5 to 7 pounds over the last year from cheating on Keto but I didn't know what it looked like. It was a reality check.
Calming my anxiety goes a long way toward clear thinking for the decision making process. Typically, once I calm my I anxiety, I discover that I already know what I should do. My own anxiety is such a noisy beast that I quite literally can't hear myself think over all that head noise.
Keep venting, Jane. Your answers are in there.
Gentle support while you sort.
You've taken the important first step in writing it out.
Now, sit down and compare the jobs with the job you were laid off from. Compare the 'satisfaction' and 'sense of accomplishment'.
Take the time to work through the comments your mom made and then let them go. They are her words, her feelings, and her problem, not yours.
You are responsible for what you say, do, react, and respond. You are NOT responsible for what others say, do, react, and respond. When you change your response to fit your well-being, their usual response no longer fits and it often gets worse before it gets better.
Best wishes as you find your better balance.
I don't necessarily entirely blame the coffeeshop. They are in the middle of a hospital district, are very busy and short handed. I guess I can understand just not having the staff available to let new employees shadow someone first. But, the business owners need an official register training program, not just a quick run-through.
At my new job, I am once again a supervisor and I get paid more, so overall it's a much better situation. And, their registers are just basic registers, you scan stuff and tell them their total, they pay, you give them a receipt. Still a little anxious, though, their busy season starts next week.