No. Just treat it as it is. It's his problem and you do not have to engage in the usual pattern.

You are the only one who can begin the change, by taking charge of your feelings first.

You're just going to keep repeating yourself as long as you stay on this track.

Yes he’s back to his miserable self the way he likes it.
Different person in front of others. No one would know what I have to tolerate.

there are times i would love to be proven wrong. . . please disappoint me. it will make my day. sigh. . .

am i supposed to be sad about the need to prepare? i have to watchdog myself about driving myself crazier with over-preparing, but i feel a certain gratification when i have guessed right and am prepared for the needs at hand, matrimonial miserable spots included.

i'm prepping for our second foster family vacay in two weeks. hubby's miserable spots are one of the most predictable piece of the in-van equation. mine, too. i think i'm doing okay with the over-prepping danger.

As long as you treat HIS problem as yours, you will suffer right along with him. As Mid said, it’s his problem, not yours. Deal with it as such. If he gets started, immediately walk away, go somewhere, get out of the house, do something productive about it. You don’t have to listen to it. That’s how you deal with it right now.

Yes. I know. I knew it was coming. I have been busy so we haven’t crossed paths. Before he talked in a kind of normal tone, but I am not really concerned about him right now.

Everyone is gone so I have to get used to that again

I am a little worried about my one dog. The one who is barking weird. Sometimes now it comes out normal.
But he seems to want to just lay around today. We did have a lot of people in our house once the dogs came back and he was very active, so maybe he’s just tired now. It’s always something I seem to obsess over.

Hi Marian,

I am guessing your dog is simply relaxing after being at the kennel and then having lots of people at your house. My daughter used to drop her do at doggy daycare once in a while and Daisy would come home exhausted and sleep the rest of the day. Same with the barking…it will come back to its normal sound:)

I hope so Seaglass. He seemed to have a little more energy a bit ago.
I just want his bark to come back. He was barking earlier and I thought I heard some normal barks mixed in.
I just want to put this all behind me.

Sounds like rough times my dear.

And he has arthritis in back legs. Now he can barely get up after lying around. I could tell something was bothering him today. He gets up and sits right back down. He can barely hold his hind quarters up.
I would assume the vet is in my future.
I literally go away for a week after the year I’ve had with Illness and death in my family, and I come home to more issues.
I am not meant to have time for calmness.

Yes, Marian, You are meant to have time for calmness. Just take the time as it is yours.