i'll buy that. . . the inner child theories have provided my most potent healing breakthroughs. the theories on "parenting your inner child" remain a proactive part of my daily mental health maintenance. checking in on my inner child and providing for her needs helps me maintain an even keel.

her childish certainty that no one can hurt you if you do not interact with anyone still reassert themselves on a routine basis, but she is getting better about trusting when i insist she get out and about because, "mommy said so."

Thanks Arfie. I was recommended this book by a counselor. I think for 15 years I’ve been looking in the wrong places within myself. I’ve been looking at problems that weren’t really the problem. I hope now that I’m getting closer to the core issue. I hope because I can’t take too much more of this anxiety.

guidance in my reading materials helps me allot in exploring psych theories. choosing random self-help books all to often sets warring experts off in my psyche. expert feuds all too often get brutal and chaotic. following a thread provided by a single professional helps me navigate the psychic maze in a far more systematic manner.

but i don't believe looking in the wrong places is a bad thing. knowing what it isn't is at least as important as knowing what it really is. psychic healing requires allot of trial and error. the only real mistake you can make is refusing to try.

Oh, often it takes a different moment to bring out the one that needs the most healing. That's how it works for me.

All of those moments make a difference in your thinking path. As you finish one, and you open the next, you are building a book of balance, and when you get to the one that brings you to the healing, you are surrounded by all you have learned along the way.

You are doing an excellent job in finding your path of healing and balance.

Keep working at it!

Thanks mid. I’ll keep searching until I find what I’m looking for.

That is an interesting concept and seems comforting but PLEASE do not forget to research the physical causes of anxiety. My lifelong anxiety was finally resolved when I realized that I was breathing from my upper chest and not my abdomen. This caused my sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight mode) to remain activated perpetually. This meant life for me was rapid heart rate, short of breath, sweaty palms, and a constant outward looking mindset. These are all typical symptoms of anxiety sufferers. Once I learned how to breath properly, my anxiety and medications I needed for decades disappeared! If you want to learn more, please let me know! Good luck : )

Hey YourVayK, that sounds interesting. How did you improve your breathing?

Because I was congested as a child, I became a mouth breather and that led to me becoming a chest breather. By chance I came across an article about how chest breathers can have a strong inclination to anxiety because of nervous systems is thrown off. I had to retrain myself to breath using my abdomen. I wrote a bit more in depth on my blog because I was so excited to find a natural treatment that wasn't a hoax. I can write more later but see if this article helps! https://yourvayk.com/2021/10/29/anxiety-and-breathing-the-overlooked-connection/