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cottontail
cottontail

Today was my work colleagues birthday. i thought it would be nice to get her a card, we dont usually bother getting each other anything but she had been talking about it so i thought i would be nice. however as usual when i try to do something nice i tie myelf in knots. For example i bought the card and then a wee plant. Then i worried that this was not enough but then i was worried that it woudl make her feel akward when it is my birthday...  so i got her a small jokey ornament and gave her them in a nice bag with a nice card. however now i am worried that she will think i am mean as i didnt spend a lot of money . she did cry when i gave her the bag but i am worried she woudl be disappointed when she saw how little was in it.


this has bothered me all day. tonight she text to say thanks and then i get stressed as i dont seem to know when to end the text string if you know what i mean. i suppose at some level i feel that she wont really want to talk to me so i try to stop the conversation as quick as possible. i just over think everything, i wish i could stop it.  does anyone else know what i mean ?

Community LeaderMid
Mid
Stop. Breathe.

Now. You did a good deed. Appreciate you did it, and recognize that she said thank you. Every time you have the thoughts that go..., rewind back to the specific and use that to break the pattern of thought to where it is back in normal range.

Best wishes.
arfie
arfie
Breathing with you, Cotton Tail. . .

Am I giving away my age to say I remember when such gentle gestures were both easy and appreciated by most. Even the folks who didnae appreciate the gesture could get a spot of humor out of their bah humbugs. That was many political corrections and law suits ago. . . I still miss friendly courtesy more than I have politically correct words to say, but. . .

Breathing with you, Cotton Tail. . . Over-thinking things is in definitely bad for the health, both mental and physical. The world is as the world is. Not as we would have it.
malibumark
malibumark
I heard you and BREATHE. You did enough. You are very kind thoughtful and generous. She said 'thank you' - so that evidence isn't it? No worries! I hope you can appreciate yourself a bit.
strong4me
strong4me
I think what u did was so nice and I'm sure your colleague appreciated it very much. Its always nice to know that someone is thinking about u especially on your birthday. By the way I think your gift was an excellent choice.
MaryContrary
MaryContrary
It was a thoughtful gesture so don't over react. You are fine with what you did. Let her make the next move. Relax.
zeezee
zeezee
That was a very sweet gesture. I would be crying too if someone gave me a thoughtful gift like that. I don't know if she would feel this way or not, but for me, if someone give me something for my birthday, even if it's really cheap, I will feel touched by it because they remembered and in a way it makes me feel that I still matter to someone. I really do think that you're over-thinking of the impression that you put out. I know it's easy for me to say that when I'm not you (I am like you too most of the time), but it's easier for outsiders looking 'in' and telling you the situation. Like everyone else here advising you already, just take a deep breath, relax and try not to think about it anymore. You're doing good :)
Tryingmybest02
Tryingmybest02
Overthinking is (unfortunately) my hobby. And anxiety makes EVERYTHING a negative scenario. You are not alone! Thank you for sharing!
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