I don't know if this is evan the right group to write to . I have been married for 22 years . My wife has gotten ocd (contamination)for the past 15 years . She tells me that I have given it to her because I am not a handy man . She worries about things that have to be done on the house. She tells her friends that she has to do everything around the house . She does everything around the house because she can keep the contamination in control . When I am home from work I spend most of the time on a 5' x 7' mat in front of the front door. I believe she also has ocpd .  Everything has to be done her way according to her ocd mind . She has many rituals , hand washing and floor cleanning and many more . Now what I did . About 10 years ago my brother-in-law molested my wife twice , she told me and I did nothing about it , but all this time my wife has been phyiscally abusing and verbally abusing me . Now she is having an affair . She keeps it out of the house , she goes to this guys house and stays over night twice a week . She has told me I could go ,but I choose to stay. She is treating me nicer than she has in years . Shoudn't she have all these contamination problems at this guys house . She can't be better when she is out of my house , can she ? Is there any hope for me ?