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gollyoly
gollyoly

I don't know if this is evan the right group to write to . I have been married for 22 years . My wife has gotten ocd (contamination)for the past 15 years . She tells me that I have given it to her because I am not a handy man . She worries about things that have to be done on the house. She tells her friends that she has to do everything around the house . She does everything around the house because she can keep the contamination in control . When I am home from work I spend most of the time on a 5' x 7' mat in front of the front door. I believe she also has ocpd .  Everything has to be done her way according to her ocd mind . She has many rituals , hand washing and floor cleanning and many more . Now what I did . About 10 years ago my brother-in-law molested my wife twice , she told me and I did nothing about it , but all this time my wife has been phyiscally abusing and verbally abusing me . Now she is having an affair . She keeps it out of the house , she goes to this guys house and stays over night twice a week . She has told me I could go ,but I choose to stay. She is treating me nicer than she has in years . Shoudn't she have all these contamination problems at this guys house . She can't be better when she is out of my house , can she ? Is there any hope for me ?





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Not sure how this group can help you. I suggest going to counseling to get help in deciding what you want to do. Best wishes.
johnnyboy1960
johnnyboy1960
I went through something like this for 20 years. My ex-wife had OCD beg time. She was a total clean freak and very abusive to me. She cleaned and cleaned constantly and at the same time constantly complained about it. I worked hard all week and on the weekends she would never let me sleep in and get the rest I so badly needed. Instead she would get me up early and make me help her clean and take care of the kids for her. She had no patience with kids. And she was constantly angry with them and very abusive to them as well. It was like living in hell and I felt like I was constantly walking on eggshells from trying so hard not to upset her and get in a long bitter drawn out fight with her. I am divorced now. If you have no where to go. Then I guess you have to stay. But if you are able to get your own place I would get a divorce and move on. You have only one life to live in this world and then it is over. You have given your best years to her. In my opinion now is the time to do for you and make a new life for youself one where you can be happy and live in peace away from this dysfunctional woman. Good luck to you johnnyboy
gollyoly
gollyoly
I can't believe someone else had a life like mine . The thing in my case is that she is now having an affair and spends a lot of time at this guys house and says she loves being there because she does not have to do here cleaning rituals there . I don't understand . Do you ?
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