I have been the parent of a daughter that went thur what you are going thur. And I myself have anxiety disorder. My dr. Did start me out on anxiety medication that helped for the worst part of my anxiety. Then I started to get my butt in to the gym and then into a yoga class and I know it's sounds made up but yoga helped me so much and mediation practiced are a great way to get ur self centered. I hope this little bit of advice help you. Just know you are stronger then any anxiety you will experience. Take care namaita

you will definitely get better but it takes ages. when the anxiety has got generalised, like it has for you, I think it takes twice as long to come back from as it did to go down. It certainly took me about 2 yrs to go down the gurgler and about 3 yrs to come back up.

sux and you really feel it'll never go; but it does go. You'll be okay so just take it one step at a time and trust your body to eventually right itself. And certainly don't go near any of those foods for ages. Like, a year type ages.

I haven't experienced parent's going through a bad divorce, but I am sorry that all of this stress has arisen from it. Keep seeing your therapist, and they should help teach you coping mechanisms. I wish I was in therapy right now! We are here for you.

Sorry you have to suffer because of what your parents did. You are very smart to go to therapy and get help through this terrible time. It's a good idea to check with your doctor about possible medication for anxiety. BuSpar, therapy and a support group are working together to help me a lot in doing better dealing with the high anxiety from a recent divorce.

IMHO the divorce gave you PTSD. You may want to check this out if you haven't already. I take meds that help me deal with it, plus talk therapy. When I was 19 I was totally messed up, but unlike you I was not aware of my problems, nor did I have any idea where to turn for help. So you're in much better thape than I was at 19, and I hope you find the answers you're looking for. I'll pray for you.

Thank you all for the wonderful advice! It helps a lot knowing there's other people out there with similar issues. I just have to continue my faith in the lord and I know I will be stronger than who I am today. Thank you all again!

It CAN get better so please don't lose hope. It's important to address any physical issues but I've found it most helpful to address the ROOT. My IBS, anxiety, depression, headaches, etc. were all caused by stress and while I could medicate them, I FELT medicated - not like I was solving anything.

On top of that, all the treatments were stressing me out more - trying to keep up with all the things I was supposed to do in order to feel better, worrying I was getting worse, not being able to eat foods that soothed me and so forth.

I've found far more answers in alternative medicine that Western "cures." A doctor tested me for the MTHFR gene mutation and I have it. It means I can't get the folate I need from food so I need to take a special sort of B6 and avoid folic acid. Just that one thing and my IBS is gone as well as my panic attacks and my depression hasn't returned. My risk of heart attack and cancer has also been reduced significantly.

I also started with AAT. While massage and meditation is nice, I had industrial strength stress and I really needed to yank that out at the root. Associative Awareness Technique is done by a physical therapist and it's deeply relaxing. It feels sort of like a massage, but it sort of resets the stress level so you're not so hyperalert and fight or flighty.

Finally, one surprising technique has saved me SO many times. An older friend of mine was telling me about what her kids were up to and I told her if my kids were doing that I'd be losing my mind with worry (they were traveling to a lot of remote areas and another was in the military). She looked me square in the eyes and said, "Not my circus, not my monkeys." Yup. Don't take on stress that is not yours. Draw that boundary. And reduce the impact the stress has on you by stepping away from it, refusing to listen to the back and forth of your parents if they try to draw you in, etc. I know, easier said than done.

When I was 19, I was a disaster. Now that I'm older, I've created a quiet life and I just do the things I love every day. I've stopped pressuring myself to be perfect and released worrying about the expectations of others. I have my own business so I can work with my own natural flow. It DOES get better!

Thank you so much! This helps a lot! I will talk to my therapist and my doctor about other things I should do for my anxiety and IBS.
When I realize why I'm having pain it makes me feel better to point it out. Like "Ohh I had spicey food that's why I have pain". Then it gradually goes away. All my life I have had medical issues. When I was only 2 years old I had my spleen removed. It was 3 times the normal size. To this day doctors still don't know why it enlarged and caused me to be so sick. Every year I got back to get blood taken so they can do more tests. Because I don't have a spleen I have to take antibiotics twice a day. Just this year I had a TON of blood taken and it was sent to the mayoclinic. I got good news, I don't have any kind of immune deficiency. But that doesn't answer the question as to why I have too many lymphosycites in my blood. So one of my docs thinks I could have ALPS. Autoimmune Lymphoproliferative syndrome. It's a rare disease that causes the spleen, liver, lymph nodes and blood to act up. I've had all of those issues but still other docs don't think I hav it.... So to this day I am a medical mystery. And I think all of that chaos has caused me to become a hypochondriac. And there's so many more issues I have going on that doctors are curious about.

PTSD related to lifetime stressor events often take a multiple action plan to find a new balance. It is a stronger balance because you have more knowledge to help you maintain a comfort zone to keep your anxiety within natural range of motion, function, and effect. When parents put people in the middle of their individual and couple situation, it puts a huge amount of "?what" into the daily routine that the people can do nothing to change, other than how they react to the situation, for their own well-being. You can not change other people's response, however, you can change your response and that forces a change because their usual actions and response will no longer fit. You are not alone in this, and you're going to make it through this with some interesting stories.