Anxiety Support Group
Anxiety is a physical condition marked by intense and persistent feelings of distress, fear, angst or dread. General anxiety caused by routine day-to-day stresses usually passes quickly and is experienced by almost everyone at one time or another. However, such feelings that linger over time and are very difficult to cope with, and which lack a clear cause, may indicate...
Words which sound the same yet have radically different meanings drive me up the psycho wall. I chase them around the more twisted caverns in my mazy mind and make myself even crazier with them. I often carry them into my studies of linguistics to maize the maze to psychotically amazing levels. Gee. . . Why can't I read my journal?
I have come to wonder if I have stumbled on ways to use this psycho tick within my psychotherapy "reframing" exercises. Just wondering, as I remind myself I am just a patient. The example which I might be on the verge of finding words to describe is double checking my spelling of, "I know" when I cut someone off in a conversation. Am I saying, "I know. I am an expert on the subject." or am I saying, "Aye! No! I ain't going **there** again." I believe I also use the two phonetic twins together. "I know, aye no. This expert ain't going there with you."
Testing, one, two, three. . .
Have I found the words for ^it^.
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I did the dumbest thing today. I charged my earbuds, unplugged the block and put the block in my little bag instead of the earbuds. I wasn't happy about that when I got to the gym. What a dummy!
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Ever since I stopped doing therapy because of insurance, I've been feeling that old tense and irritable sense of anxiety and stress. I hate that. I was making so many strides and changes during therapy, my therapist would acknowledge all of my progress and accomplishments, and I miss that reassurance. Today I thought about it, and I made those changes! She would always tell me that I chose to...
Hmm.
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The tone, the emphasis, the subject, and the conversation all play into figuring the meaning of multiple choices words.
"Milky way" can mean galaxy or candy bar. "Mars" can mean planet or candy bar. Those two, if I miss an important connection word, can result in a statement that brings the conversation down into a room full of laughter, including myself.
I do not like to say "I know" unless it is to agree with the other person. It's a lot less anxiety for me to allow them their perspective and finish their experience, their view, and their story.
When something I say or write does not provide 'help' or adds to someone's distress or stress, I often will remove my words, or add to them, depending on the situation.
If I strongly disagree with what someone is saying, I remind myself that it's not my words, not my answer that they want to hear, they just want someone to listen without judging.
I do understand that a lot of people use the general statement of "I know" to stop or end the particular subject being discussed. I respect that when I hear it, and I move on.
Interesting.
I didn't realize how much I used it, myself, until I started hearing it from my pre-adolescent sons. By the time they were teenagers, it was a standard response to new information they could not possibly know and led to many an irrational argument over, "You should have told me!" Ever try to tell an adolescent that you **tried** to tell them? My 40 year old son is still far too knowledgeable to coordinate with. These days I give up after the first, "I know." Aye, no, I haven't dared to ask how he spells his "I know."
Fast forward to my second parenting career and I am again starting to hear, "I know, aye no" from Big Bro's 7 year old knowledge base.
Sorting. . . Let it begin with me.
Children learn what we show them more than what we tell them.
Even when I really do know, it is good to review and/or confirm.
?Aye no?
I enjoy observing the duopoly of language and words... my experience it is a personal individual ting with the person you are speaking/communication with
Buttttttaaaaaa. . .
Speech therapy turned me into a language freak. More than half a century later, I am still learning new languages.