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I Just Want it All to Go Away…

Conners_Wifey
Conners_Wifey

This has been a very trying day. I honestly thought that today would be pretty good. I woke up feeling ok, the sun was absolutely amazing, and it was already so warm when I let the dogs out this morning. I have been dealing with nocturnal cramps again. I have had two back surgeries and my back is still super messed up, but I have learned what to do to keep the pain under contro. So, even with the discomfort I feel at night, I still thought that today would be ok. So much for that thought. I honestly don't know what triggered me, but I have been miserable. I ended up sleeping most of the day, which is a sure sign that I am not ok. My husband is great, and is usually supportive, but I definitely didn't get any support from him today, which made things worse. He tried waking me up at 4:30, just so I would be able to sleep tonight. I, however, responded very bad to that. I said something I immediately regretted and instantly apologized, but I know that apologies don't always help, especially when I am prone to outbursts. I hate it. My depression and anxiety just get to the point of no control some days. I like to say that I have gotten thing more under control over the years, but I do still have days where I just can't do it. I currently have no interest in anything and want to be left completely alone. I don't want to try. I want to give up. I work on myself every single day and still feel so lost and empty. I keep trying though and I don't know why. My therapist holds me accountble for my self-care and I really appreicate that. I just wish the people I am "close" to would try to be more understanding. I don't expect to be coddled and definitely don't want anyone hovering, but a little bit of concern would be great some days. I am finding it harder and harder to be there for others and I feel like i am losing empathy towards other. I don't want to be this person. I just want all of the darkness to clear out, or at least break up enough for me to see the sunshine. I apologize for the long-winded post and thank you for listening to me vent. I hope everyone is doing good. I send hugs, love, good vibes, and peace to each of you... 

arfie
arfie
Friends and family make notoriously bad therapists, Wifey, even when a person is qualified and licensed to therapute John Q. Public. Part of professional training is insistent nagging that you never attempt to therapute friends or family. Professional detachment is nearly impossible in the presence of a personal attachment. I most certainly don't want my husband to be capable of professional detachment with me.

I get much further with taking my psychotherapy needs to my therapy support network while I let friends and family remain friends and family. Keep venting here, Wifey. Listening. . . We care and have a few more clues than I even want my loved ones to endure. In this case, ignorance really is bliss. I allow my loved ones that ignorance with love, respect and more than a bit of envy.
Community LeaderMid
Mid
I learned to let it go when people give me their perspective of anxiety and stress. I smile and thank them and then I change the subject.

If you have never experienced the activity anxiety levels that seem overwhelming, then the advice shared 'works for you'.

I remind myself that I am responsible for what I say, do, react, and respond. I am NOT responsible for what others say, do, react, and and respond. In doing this, and putting my well-being first, I have found far more support because their usual response no longer fits and even in the worse response, it changed.

Keeping a daily private journal as you learn what works best for you to find the calm in the moment often brings you calm techniques that help you to continue to find the better balance naturally.
lighttheway
lighttheway
Yes I agree with what everyone said. People that don’t experience anxiety or pain. On the same level. Just don’t completely understand. What we go thru. So their advice or solutions. And understanding. Can fall short.
This is one reason I’m picky about who I share what with. As some can do more damage than help with their responses
Go. Gentle with yourself. Self care. Where u can.
Redfinch
Redfinch
I am challenged every day with anxiety. It’s been four months since my nerves just broke down. I, too, suffer from isolating myself and my husband suffers emotionally from it. He is very supportive but after weeks/months of hoping to get our lives back to normal…bam, another very anxious day. Medication helps the intense anxiety but, not the interest in doing things. I will do yoga, meditate, garden, walk outside…but all seems so temporary. We all have to encourage each other to keep trying to get our normal lives back.
Conners_Wifey
Conners_Wifey
Many thanks to each of you who responded so kindly. I agree with everyone. I have to stop expecting my loved ones to understand and just be ok with how they interpret my anxiety/depression to be. They still love me, so I am just grateful for that. Today has been a little better. I still have no motivation to do anything, but I managed to do a little cleaning and also my yoga. I am counting them as little wins. Thank you for your support, as you have mine too! We are here for each other and that is better than what most have. Hugs and love to you all...
arfie
arfie
Taking time to celebrate those "little wins" might be my most important therapy tool. In my therapy circles we call that, "Positive Affirmation." Positive affirmation for my other therapy tools makes them easier to find and use in the next spin of the not-so-merry-go-round. Little wins add up to big wins before ya know it.

As my coping skills have grown, so too has my gratitude that my loved ones don't understand. I wouldn't wish an insider view of this condition on my worst enemy, far less a loved one. Launching from that gratitude, I feel a tad bit guilty for being so grateful that my therapy support peers **do** understand, buttttttaaaaa. . .

I'm glad you are here and **do** understand. It helps to know I am not alone.
Conners_Wifey
Conners_Wifey
Arfie- thank you for being so supportive! It means so much. I am having a much better day today. I am counting that as a win! It is the little things. I am so grateful for my therapy support peers! You all have helped so much!
Winter
Winter
You know what? we are both having different problems but I have the same thoughts and feelings, I just want it all to go away. I am glad you came on here for support and you got it. I am glad,
Conners_Wifey
Conners_Wifey
Hey Winter! I'm just so tired of fighting, but I know I have to continue to. Thanks for responding!! I'm here anytime you want to vent!!
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